[elliemay]

http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/0...bond/?hpt=Sbin

[Suratji]

It's nice to read scientific research that confirms what we know already. I have 'interviewed' a few medical doctors to find one I felt compatible with. I refuse to see a doctor who treats me condescendingly or coldly. Luckily I have found a medical doctor with whom I like and trust a lot. Even though I will disagree with her on treatment protocols, she never withdraws her support.

The same goes with the relationship with a therapist. I go on 'gut feeling'. When I first met my T, that was the crucible. Did it feel right being with her? Was I comfortable? Did I like her? All in the first meeting.

I would never see a T with whom I didn't like or didn't trust. The therapeutic relationship, I believe, depends on trust and comfort.

Thanks for sharing this article.

[ladyjrnlist]

That makes sense to me. My pdoc told me when I was in the hospital that we'd keep working on it until we got the depression under control. He exuded confidence even though I felt nothing would help. That gave me some hope, which I didn't have until then.

[elliemay]

I guess the thing that I like best about this article was the notion that both the provider and the patient have to be open to the other.

It's hard not to nitpick and expect the doc to be perfect because it feels as though there is so much at stake (and there is).

The idea of good and not perfect really rings true to me.

[nannypat]

Originally Posted by elliemay

http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/0...bond/?hpt=Sbin

Thanks for posting this.It would be too long of a story to explain why this means so much to me to read about this. Let me just say that my pdoc of 1 year has confidence I will get through this. My ex T of 20+ years gave me no hope.