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#1
Jun 13, 2011, 10:46 AM
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she asked me if I wanted to be happy and I told her, most of the time, I just want to not be sad. so she gave me this assignment - to list 100 things that bring me joy. one thing I mentioned was the taste of sweet, juicy watermelon. haven't thought of anything else yet.
so I wanted to pass this along to all of you - maybe it'll be helpful to thing about when having a rough moment, day or whatever...  what brings you joy?? 
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~ 
Last edited by rainbow_rose; Jun 13, 2011 at 12:08 PM. |
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#2
Jun 13, 2011, 11:10 AM
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Currently my ducklings :-)
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| rainbow_rose, Suratji, WikidPissah
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#3
Jun 13, 2011, 11:18 AM
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 I had a co-worker rescue an abandoned baby duck. SOooo cute!
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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| Suratji
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#4
Jun 13, 2011, 11:19 AM
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My therapist asked me this once, and I said "What do you mean by 'joy'? Can you define it?" And he said "...most people wouldn't respond like that."
...thanks T! But it made me do some thinking, and my horses are on the top of the list, for sure. For me, there's nothing that makes me as happy as the way we seem to just "get" each other --like inter-species communication It feels magical.
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| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#5
Jun 13, 2011, 11:27 AM
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Rain after a long dry spell. The infectious laughter of a very young child. Beautiful music, whether singing or hearing it Most kinds of live performance Beauty of nature; sunrises, sunsets, very starry skies, rainbows, autumn colors, waterfalls, birdsong, etc etc. |
| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#6
Jun 13, 2011, 12:04 PM
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A few that come to mind: walking on the beach while it's hailing; quiet sea kayaking watching the egrets; considering learning to box (I saw a woman at the gym today practicing punching and it seemed like fun (I wouldn't want to receive any punches though); writing poetry at the coffee shop; solitary walking the streets of Madrid or Paris or Asheville or Vancouver; hiking the Appalachian trail; sampling exotic foreign cuisine; dancing with my shadow; studying Hindi; diving deep into the clear blue water; rocking with Janis Joplin; enjoying the scent of jasmine while lolling in my hammock; tai chi; being confused by quantum physics (it's fun to explore what can't be understood
 ); cross country road trips; slaughtering a foreign language and we all laugh hysterically about it; long ferry rides/smelling the sea air; hearing bird song; enjoying the blossoming of flowers in the Springtime; listening to other people's stories; imaginary games with my grandson; art galleries (what were they trying to express?); philosophical conversations (does anyone really understand Sartre and the existentialists?; reaching that yoga stretch; the rare really good movie; deep dark French Roast coffee (no sugar, no cream please); Farmer's Markets; snacking on snow peas on the vine; hummingbirds; browsing in bookstores/libraries; hot tub/sauna, etc. etc.Thanks for this - it's too easy to forget what brings us joy. We tend to concentrate on our troubles so often. |
| rainbow_rose
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#7
Jun 13, 2011, 12:47 PM
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Watermelon is good.
My guitar. Art. Spaghetti with as much cheddar cheese as I want. Cute boys. Summer. Sparkly things. Sweaters. |
| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#8
Jun 13, 2011, 01:21 PM
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 ~Crafting of any kind ~Listening to music ~My kitty cats snuggling up next to me ~Singing (solo or in the sanctuary choir) ~Watching favorite shows: Big Bang Theory, Ruby, Lets Make A Deal (I'm old...LOL!) ~Playing in my church's handbell choir ~Yellow ~Pink ~Sweat Pea from Bath and Body Works ~Therapy ~My T's face ~Friends ~Friends whom I've adopted as parents ~Listening to a friend talk to me about what is bothering them because it makes them feel validated. ~Getting a close parking space next to the store. ~Did I mention hugs? ~Corny jokes (I'm the queen of corny jokes) ~Laughing outloud ~Doing the robot when I'm being silly. Everyone around usually wale with laughter. ~Good food ~Hanging out with someone I love ~Going to the library ~Ribbon (all kinds, sizes, colors, and prints) ~Cupcakes ~Making and giving gifts ~Teenagers (they're such goobers and they think I'm hilarious) ~Being a girly girl ~Polka Dots ~Butterflies ~Owls (I love them!) ~Mery Streep movies ~My friend Susan ~My friend's red hair and her scottish accent ~Irish people (I'm not Irish)  ~Happy children ~The brownie or roll in the middle of the pan ~Flip Flops ~Great fitting jeans ~Pretty tops made with soft, feminine fabrics ~Summer dresses ~Silly socks ~Crocs ~Sunshine ~A great cup of coffee made with hazelnut creamer ~Old school headphones ~My amazing iPhone ~The Talk (TV talk show) ~Reality TV (and I'm not ashamed of it) ~The smell of Off mosquito repellant. It makes me think of camping when I was a Girl Scout. It was when I was the safest and most happiest; when I was away from home. ~Shopping for household stuff like soap, laundry detergent, paper towels, cleansers (I know, I'm weird). ~Writing ~Drawing ~Public speaking ~Stopping a stranger and telling them something great about themselves. ~The lady that works at the auto insurance office. She's so sweet to me, always. ~Holding someone's face in my hands and telling them I love them. ~Anything to do with Broadway and theater. There's more, but I have to head to therapy, so I'll stop for now. LOL! |
| Beauty From Despair, dizgirl2011, rainboots87, rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#9
Jun 13, 2011, 01:37 PM
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peridot28, that is an AWESOME list!
Thanks for sharing it !
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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#10
Jun 13, 2011, 01:38 PM
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I would copy Peridot's list. Lol.
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#11
Jun 13, 2011, 01:45 PM
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This is a great post.
Hm...brings me joy... my faith in God/ Christianity cuddling with my 2 little girls taking a nap!! wearing yoga pants and sweatshirts, just being comfy getting to sleep in late on rare occassions chocolate chip cookies!! home made pudding...yum hanging out with friends at Sunday School/church hugs from my therapist hanging out with kids sparkly things the smell of fresh cut grass rare occassions when I get to hang out with & goof off with my sister spring rains thunderstorms long summer days hearing good things about people, good news sunsets (I like sun rises too, but those come AWFULLY early in the morning!!  )
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| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#12
Jun 13, 2011, 02:19 PM
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Jun 13, 2011, 03:25 PM
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 that made me LOL!
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Happiness cannot be found through great effort and willpower, but is already present, in open relaxation and letting go. Don't strain yourself, there is nothing to do or undo. Whatever momentarily arises in the body-mind Has no real importance at all, has little reality whatsoever. Don't believe in the reality of good and bad experiences; they are today's ephemeral weather, like rainbows in the sky. ~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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Jun 13, 2011, 03:31 PM
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i dont know if this brings joy but hanging out in my craft room by myself and listening to music and doing crafts does bring me some calm.in fact that is what i am doing now
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| rainbow8, rainbow_rose, sittingatwatersedge, Suratji
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#15
Jun 13, 2011, 04:19 PM
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My faith in God
All my kids being here on a holiday Camping Writing Reading Good coffee when I wake up A bag of Smarties that I don't have to share with anyone Raspberry jelly rings that I don't have to share with anyone Potato Chips and Ice Cream mixed together The Yankees beating the Red Sox The Yankees winning the World Series Listening to loons at night when I'm camping Hearing from an old friend I haven't heard from in awhile Pictures of my kids when they were little Knowing my T cares about me and wants what's best for me |
| granite1, rainbow_rose, Suratji
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Jun 13, 2011, 04:45 PM
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Happened to me about an hour ago--I was walking my dog down by the river and a Great Blue Heron took off in flight right in front of me! They are such shy birds that I usually only see them from a distance, but I could have reached out and touched the end of this one's wing. It was soooo beautiful as it lifted itself into the air and soared to the other side of the river. I felt pure joy and it's still with me as I think about it right now and share it with all of you
(The thought and the sharing gets those brain chemicals flowing once all over again!)
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| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#17
Jun 13, 2011, 05:00 PM
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Jun 13, 2011, 05:05 PM
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A really good joke
A fire in the wintertime The sound of a brook Being in the hammock in my back yard with my dogs Flowers Organizing stuff (I didn't say I wasn't weird lol) Really encouraging someone Strong coffee with a friend A dog sandwich (that's me in the guest room snuggling with one doggie at my tummy and the other behind my knees--and I'm the sandwich!)
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"Just living is not enough," said the butterfly, "one must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower." — Hans Christian Andersen  God chose the weak, the lowly and despised ... his power is greatest when we are weak. — The Bible Come on in and visit my blog, "Whisperings: Impressions from the Spirit to a flawed and fragile soul" http://spiritwhispers.blogspot.com/ Last edited by Beauty From Despair; Jun 13, 2011 at 05:09 PM. Reason: just one more |
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#19
Jun 13, 2011, 05:11 PM
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LOL Granite! Your Red Sox KILLED my Yankees last week!
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#20
Jun 13, 2011, 05:17 PM
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#21
Jun 13, 2011, 05:48 PM
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When I first started therapy I struggled to get more than about 2.5 things on my list too. Helpfully, there's a DBT list of possible 'pleasant events' with 176 suggestions... you can find it here
http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/er_handout_8.html |
| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#22
Jun 13, 2011, 06:28 PM
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My little disabled dog's smile
My little princess dog's snoring A walk in the woods Finding a deer at the creek The baby ducks on the pond The songbirds in the convent garden The chipmunk that steals their birdfood The nun that weeds the flowers The nun that is SO patient when I'm mute When my words come back after being gone The friar that sways when he sings at mass The fat cat staring down the chickens The skinny cat pouncing on the fat cat When I practice violin without screeching The smell of clean laundry A new scent of new shower gel Melted marshmallows in hot chocolate Turkish delight Memories of my grandpa's singing Memories of my grandma's kitchen smells A long car ride with the perfect music My T innocently calling me "my dear" Having my own key to a safe place to stay |
| rainbow_rose, Suratji
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#23
Jun 13, 2011, 06:32 PM
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#24
Jun 13, 2011, 08:15 PM
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For me, what brings me joy is actually feeling that I have been heard.
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#25
Jun 13, 2011, 08:23 PM
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music
my garden journaling T's office, just being there summer writing art sleeping animals my family
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