[jazzy123456]

Oh--you can go ahead and read but, we all know this is the "classic" post/thread on being upset about getting NO response from an email.
oh-dread'.

I sent my T an email. No response. My heart hurts but, I'll deal. My therapist usually responds the same day...Truly, I'm use to that. And I rarely if ever email these days. Only when something is really, really important to me. I go weeks without emailing...I've taught myself to do that...even when all it did was hurt me emotionally not too. I knew thats whats what was best but, I at least need to know that she read it...really. Thats really the whole point.. that it was read... maybe she just decided on her own that she was going to no longer respond to my emails... thats great and everything but, I think I have a right to know that... you shouldn't be all...nonchalant and distant about it...If your not going to respond, fine... but, I think it takes two seconds to reply with a " hey, jazzy, read...the email. will talk about this in session." I don't know, who knows? maybe, she's just taking her time... its only been one day, its just so odd for her to even wait One whole day if I send something....if I hadn't been seeing her for over a year I wouldn't think anything of it, but, I've worked with her entirely too long. for a year. I even know her work days.. monday, tuesday, and wednesday..every other day she's out of the office. so I know she takes care of business, which would include emails..monday, tuesday, and wednesday. I sent the email tuesday. guess what today is ...drum roll..... thursday!! get my point? lol.
Usually, if I send something monday, I'm guaranteed a response by tuesday. I send something tuesday, guaranteed a response wednesday. get it?

I spent all day distracting my mind from it... not wanting to look...
and I finally log on and see nothing. bummed.

my point is.... sometimes people are just too vunerable at times/ stupid, small things make them crazy
cus, there are so much more BIG important things effecting everything else... small things don't make a huge
difference until your REALLY, DEEPLY hurting...then its like, something as small as a particle of sand ( like an email),
feels like a mountain, a sandcastle..

when it hurts... haha, yeah I'm bummed..I know this
cus' I'm getting all poetic now. omg! :/

[Perna]

When we don't get a reply/response to something, everything afterwards is all speculation in our heads, all the, "maybe she just decided. . ." is what we are telling ourselves and have nothing to do with the actualities of the situation (we have to wait until we can talk to the person and find out from them what they were doing/thinking by asking them). I have a policy that if I'm going to do that to myself, get all worked up, I might as well think "good" thoughts as bad? I don't know what it is so I might as well think something that will benefit me; if people don't respond it must be because something is so big and good that they have to tell me in person, when they can smile on me and be excited and I can see!

I am sure that you have read my email dramas in here, as well. Like you, mine has somewhat of a normal routine as to when she will reply. Why does this hurt so bad!! I hate it, just as you do. Since I am in the same boat, not sure I can offer much advice, just support.

[SoupDragon]

I know the feeling of that wait - it is so horrible and I end up feeling totally tormented.

It sounds like this is the first time that your T hasn't responded straight away - that must feel so tough right now - Hope you get a response soon.

[rainbow8]

Yes, I understand. You know I do! I don't know why something so little affects us so much. I think because it's NOT little to us. That grain of sand in your shoe is tiny but it feels like a mountain until you get it out. Everything our Ts do or say is so important to many of us. It's just the way it is, I think.

I felt so bad after my session yesterday until I talked to my T. Just a little reassurance goes a long way!!

I hope your T answers soon. This is your old T, right? You're getting a new one, though? Sorry, I try to keep everyone's situation straight in my mind but it doesn't always work.

[jazzy123456]

this is the same T I've had for a year and a half. I really NEVER changed, except when I made the choice to go see a school counselor.

I knew everyone would "get" this though..even if they couldn't offer much advice.

However, she did respond. it didn't make much sense to me...but, at least she responded...she just took her time...a little bit longer to do it.

[rainbow8]

I'm glad your T responded to you. If you want to share, what didn't make sense to you?

[jazzy123456]

Hey-rainbow! I think I am going to create another thread to explain it and you've said a lot in your other thread that I want to respond too.
However, I have to go take care of some things first.....so, I plan on pm'ing you in response to your most recent thread...

AND. I plan on posting a new thread about this "email" situation. ttys ----JAZZY.