Misconduct, Judgement, & Trust

I'd like an update too. Are you okay with what happened? How did it go down? Are you going to find another T? Please don't keep us hangin.

I'm wondering, too! It sounds like your T didn't respond as you had hoped.

wintergirl, you are very right. He did not respond as I had hoped.

(((((hugs lacey)))))

What happened?

well. i finally confronted my T about his friend. we talked some, but my time was up before the conversation finished. we're meeting again today.

i've never really fought with T... it's weird. unsettling.

he said that the guy is his friend, that they don't have a professional relationship.

Lacey - what was your relationship with your T prior to getting this information? It seems to me that his friendship with the other T should not be a deal-breaker if you had trusted your T before.

I'd say that only if your T condoned the behavior of his friend should you begin to question his ethics but haven't all of us made mistakes before in our lives? I keep thinking of the saying, "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

I am not in any way suggesting that what that T did was right or defensible but must you condemn your T for his mistake? On the other hand, if your relationship was already wobbly, then learning of this incident could really be permanently damaging.

I feel for you. Good luck

i've decided to see it as a mark of my T's ability to navigate the gray area. lord knows that i tend to see things in black and white (particularly about my own actions and person), and it has been good to have T push back against my assumptions.

It sounds like you've given this a lot of thought and have come to a conclusion that feels good to you.