How Much of Your Therapy Do You Share With Your Significant Other

My husband and I are both in therapy. We see the same t, sometimes together, but mostly alone. Sometimes we talk about therapy, but not usually. We respect each other's space where therapy is concerned.

I just want to comment that I'm surprised by these answers. I always wished that my H would ask me about my sessions. I want to share with him, but he doesn't seem interested. I would think that in a good marriage, H and wife would want to share their problems, at least some of them. Am I wrong?

I see sharing your problems and sharing your therapy sessions as two different things. You can discuss your problems without revealing what goes on in your therapy sessions.

I think sharing your problems with your spouse is different from sharing your therapy.

ETA: see my post crossed with farmergirl's. Ditto!

I don't want to hijack this thread, but thanks, sunrise and farmergirl. I think I see the distinction, but personally, for ME, I would feel loved if my H wanted to know what I talk about in therapy. I don't want to tell him everything, but it would mean he cared. Problems in therapy are problems in life, so I think they kind of overlap.

You know - men are designed differently. It hurts me too when it seems obvious to me that my H doesn't care. But, I guess, they show care by, say, taking out the garbage. So many of them are not that into feelings unless you want to talk about the excitement of their favorite sports team or the political figure they hate.

That's why having girlfriends and having our T is so important. Those emotional needs probably can never be met my our husbands in the way we want.

Hey, do we have the same husband, skysblue?! That's why it's so hard for me. I need the kind of nurturing I get from my T, and if my H could only give me a fraction of that......I do have women friends who can, and I know I have to practice self-soothing too, but still, there's a void.....

I agree with you. What I talk about in therapy are things I am working on, or maybe something that has come up that week that I need talk about. My 'problems' are the reason that I am in therapy, so if I share with my husband, he is going to know what I am working on. Thus, he knows my problems and all about my session.

I don't see how you can separate that. I don't tell him everything. There are things that would probably hurt his feelings if he knew about it. But we do talk about therapy quite often.