[Jenn1fer82]

Has anyone heard of object relation style of therapy? My T told me she used ORT in our sessions and maybe I can look into that can help me have a better understanding of myself. I'm no longer seeing my T because she's moved on in her professional career.
I've tried looking for information on the internet but everything is so technical that its so difficult to understand.
Can anyone help?

Think of the object as all the important people in our lives. How we exPereince it, how we relate to it, to ourselves.

I think it is about the way we interacted with our parents as infants/ children.

Were they able to meet our needs and did we seem them as " the good our bad parent". Did we learn to trust, accept love or did they frustrate us etc.

That is a pattern we bring in to adulthood and they way we "view and interact with objects" not only people who are close but like a state of mind where we observe and deal with people and relationships based on our experiences in infancy and childhood and they way we view ourself in the world based on those early interactions.

It´s important for the T to get picture of how the client relates to others as it has been founded so early in life so he or she can try to " correct" those unconcious patterns we don´t remember trying to make the foundation of a healthy realtionship where the therapist models a whole human being in therapy. That way the client won´t lets say see all men as evil or authority figures as scary when in fact they might be nice people. The client percieve something that might not me correct based on early experiences wich can make it diffult relating to other people in a healthy way, where you see the person for who he or she is as a whole person good,bad, boring, fun not just bad based on subjectivity that this is a bad person ect. The client aloso comes to think of him or herself as a whole person during the interaction not just a person who is not worthy of love learned by "bad parent" or what ever the problem is . Not just black and white thinking about oneself or others inorder to form relationship based in " reality"

Feel free to correct or just skip this

[unaluna]

you're right, it is confusing, but once you get the hang of it, it does help explain stuff. I have T in a little while, but i'll come back later with a book suggestion or something. when I was doing this, I would yell out, "Bad object!" (like "bad dog!") whenever I caught myself doing something that wasn't the best choice for myself. That is, I was pleasing someone else by making that choice, someone who did not truly have my best interests at heart. Like a parent who just wants you to mindlessly obey, instead of learn to make good decisions.

[mcl6136]

My old, cold distant T was into object relations and I found it absolutely poisonous.

[regretful]

Maybe this link will help? http://www.theipi.org/about-ipi/obje...ations-therapy

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by mcl6136

My old, cold distant T was into object relations and I found it absolutely poisonous.

of course, keep in mind that somebody in PC recently posted negative reviews of CBT, which I thought was life-changing.

I guess it takes all kinds!

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by mcl6136

of course, keep in mind that somebody in PC recently posted negative reviews of CBT, which I thought was life-changing.

I guess it takes all kinds!

all,

I've reached a new low...replying to my own postings

Originally Posted by mcl6136

all,

I've reached a new low...replying to my own postings

LOL!!!! You crack me up, mcl ! I'm gonna slip in a quick reply here so you won't feel so bad. But I can't stop laughing! Some days it just doesn't pay to even get out of bed.............

Originally Posted by Jenn1fer82

Has anyone heard of object relation style of therapy? My T told me she used ORT in our sessions and maybe I can look into that can help me have a better understanding of myself. I'm no longer seeing my T because she's moved on in her professional career.
I've tried looking for information on the internet but everything is so technical that its so difficult to understand.
Can anyone help?

It sounds like ORT is a good way to go if you want to understand yourself better. However, if you have specific goals you want to accomplish and need help in achieving them, ORT would be kinda a waste of time. CBT is more focused on that type of thing.

My T is eclectic, and actually, I usually have no idea what the hell technique he's using. I think we probably started out more CBT, along the lines of "Well, if you're lonely, why don't you go to the senior center or take a class at the local college." I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!! I don't need to pay someone to tell me that! What I need to know is WHY I won't take any action along those lines? Why I seem to be physically unable to get off my duff and get out and meet new people. This is where ORT stuff is really helping. I'm beginning to think that if someone's life is really messed up, they should start out with CBT stuff to get things under control, and then move into ORT-type techniques if they want to go deeper. I think it's all what your goals are.

[healed84]

http://www.goodtherapy.org/object-relations.html Here is a short article that talks about ORT.. I have a done of bit of research on b/c when I was looking into my T his bio stated he specializes in it and I had never heard of it.

Originally Posted by TheBunnyWithin

LOL!!!! You crack me up, mcl ! I'm gonna slip in a quick reply here so you won't feel so bad. But I can't stop laughing! Some days it just doesn't pay to even get out of bed.............

mcl6163 Thanks for kick starting my day. I am laughing so hard that tears are running down my cheeks. Please don´t feel bad about it

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by lonelybychoice

mcl6163 Thanks for kick starting my day. I am laughing so hard that tears are running down my cheeks. Please don´t feel bad about it

any time....glad to provide some levity. And, I'm well aware that I may even do this again!