Do you dream about your T? Do you tell them?

Oh now I have to ask!

haha hankster you will have to report on your T's answer!! That takes a lot of courage to ask something like that for sure!!! I felt a little awkward when my T said he thought about me one time out of session...I couldn't imagine him telling me about a dream!!

I can already see his chin going forward defensively, a little steam coming out of his ears (& nose)... I need to do his astrological chart, he must have Taurus rising or something! maybe I know him too well.

We had a bad dream about her last night... dreamed she called us and said she got fired, and couldn't be our T anymore... we were devastated and woke up crying.

Oh my gosh I don't think I want to know!!!

Oh God...I'm so very sorry I read that post...please tell me they have other things to do...

If I give God headaches, I must give him nighmares...blech!!!
Well, he gives me daymares, it would only be fair, right?

Oh, hell..Hankster..want to fly to Texas and talk to my T??? This is going to drive me nuts...!!

How come this smiley always appears in posts about my T???

WB

Ha - i'll just blame it on you guys - "The PC people are talking about..." At my last session we signed onto PC on his computer so he knows my password, I'll tell him to just post on this thread, enquiring minds want to know! You guys are my group therapy, dontcha know? Seriously, I get SO MUCH from here. The interaction, my own emotional regulation, understanding and trying to be sensitive to other people's feelings, finding commonality in our history and our present circumstances and our personalities - the way he talks about it, it sounds like he keeps getting himself kicked OFF his own online (sports fanatic) forums, so maybe he's dreaming about all of YOU! ps don't forget we're older people and its just icky

Yay! Me too!

I had a dream last night about T that lasted for a long time.
We had session but I couldn't talk because I kept thinking he was too busy for me.
Then it was over and we were at his house. I was begging him to tell me why he was mad at me. He said if I didn't know why he was mad then I didn't deserve to know why. His wife was there and was telling him they had to go somewhere. I said "I will give you another whole session payment if you will just take five min to tell me why you are so mad at me." He stopped and was thinking about it for a while and then said "Your five min are up." and he turned to leave! I was not able to feel any emotion (I am in an emotional blackhole right now in life) but I kept thinking I should be angry or hurt right now. Thankfully I woke up after that!

I did send my T the dream in an email and he told me he was not mad at me :-)

Have I ever had a dream about T? Yes. Twice.

Have I ever told her? No.

In the first dream I had about T was a year ago. She was at my house, sitting in my backyard with me, and we were having a therapy session. I noticed that she had a fake arm and a fake leg (which she does not have in RL), and I was wondering how I had never noticed this before. Then, at some point duirng the session, her husband and some other people showed up, and they joined the conversation. I was upset because I felt my time with T was being taken over by these other people. (Though I did think the way her husband was tending to her disabilities was sweet). Then, at some point, T's husband asked her if she was ready to leave. She said no becasue the session wasn't over yet. Her husband said he had to leave, and asked her toc ome with him becasue she needed him to help her walk and drive her home (after all, she had a fake arm and a fake leg!) At this point, I interjected that if T stayed and finished our session, I would drive her home. T agreed to this, and her husband and everyone else left. So, finally, T and I were able to finish our session and, afterwards, I helped T walk out to the car. Even with holding my hand and leaning on me for balance, T's fake leg made her walk incredibly slow and I felt super awkard about helping her... and it's at that point that I woke up.

Now for the second dream, which was about 6 months ago. This time, T popped up in a dirty dream. (oops!) We were in the therapy room and she started telling me I was beautiful... then she started doing things. I was surprised by how dominant and forceful she was because, in RL, I imagine her to be more submissive and kind of klutzy/awkward. In RL, T is NOT someone I find sexy; however, during the dream, I was into it. She said her rationale for her actions was that she wanted to take care of me (in every way) and she wanted to show me she was "good." While this sounds totally out of left field, I had this dream the night after a therapy session in which I told T about a sexual experience I had with someone in RL in which I described some things that, apparently, she didn't know about! She looked a little embarassed after I explained them to her! It was one of the only times I felt like I was teaching T something! So, my take on the dream is that I wanted T to take back her role as the one who is "in charge" and "all-knowing." However, my FIRST thought upon waking up from that dream was "Darn-it, wrong therapist!"-- becasue my previous T was quite attractive and I would have much rather had the dream about her! But, despite the dream, I've never felt awkward around T since. It was just a dream; no big deal. I've had plenty of dreams about people I'm not attracted to before; it just happens sometimes. Everyone seems to be fair game for my unconscious: regardless of gender, relationship status, etc. No one is safe! lol. I just wouldn't tell my T about the dream because I don't want HER to feel awkward around ME! I don't want to her think "uh oh, what if it happens again!"

I would be curious to know if my T has ever dreapt about me, or other clients, but I'd never ask! I'd never ask because then she'd ask me if I dreamt about her, and I'd have to tell her what I just wrote!

hankster, i really want to know if you ask him or not and what the answer is

tigergirl, I won't let you down. I couldn't be serious with him all last week, it wasn't good. thanks. appt wednesday.

[quote=hankster;2020522]Ha - i'll just blame it on you guys - "The PC people are talking about..." At my last session we signed onto PC on his computer so he knows my password, I'll tell him to just post on this thread, enquiring minds want to know!

Ok..Hankster...got up my own nerve and not so slyly sent him part of my post...

First he said that No, I don't give God headaches..he said that when he thinks of me outside of therapy he thinks of me with compassion because he knows I hurt...and "no, I don't give him nightmares."

So there. I did it! For all it's worth... And yes, he thinks that our relationship is "real" and that I teach him stuff too, and that there is real connection...

It actually ended up being a really "healing" session, and I'm so glad that I ended up opening the door to the discussion, even though it was kind of a back door. I was sooo tired of the strife and being overwhelmed and it was nice just to be soothed and told it was ok, and to just "be" connected to him for today.. He seemed to just "know" that's what I needed...I guess that's why he's MY T.

T's ROCK!!!

Wysteria Blue

You're next, Dude!!

He said he didn't think so, not that he recalled... he sounded very convincing...NOT! Honestly, you guys do not realize how pretty he is, and what a pit bull I am. So I said, you dream about me when your dog farts. And then I said, hmm, no I don't recall waking up screaming recently (implying because he'd been dreaming of me). And he was like, so why do you say these things? Because that's how I see myself.

We were also talking about rainbow8's "pattern" of yearning for T (as I call it) and after a while it became pretty apparent who we were REALLY talking about, and I said, "I like this 'my FRIEND has a problem' way of looking at things" and he BURST out laughing and bear-hugged me (we were sitting in the little chairs right next to each other, he also sees kids) and I laughed so hard my stomach hurt. And he said, any other problems your FRIEND needs help with? Then I wanted to talk about tennis, so I did. Oh, now I realize why! Because Novak was so RESILIENT, and that is one of T's favorite things.