wont be able to see T any more

I wont be able to see my T any more because I was laid off from my job. (after they hired me 2.5 weeks ago and asked me to make sure that I would be able to work all school year). And no I wont be able to get another job really easily. I was babysitting before school as that was the only time I had available and now that the school year has started no one is hiring any longer for that time of day. The whole rest of my days are filled with school and practicum.

I can't deal with this. If I have to stop seeing her because of money she pretty much said that she wont see me again after that. So even if I did get another job at some point in the future I would have to see someone else. So this will be my last session this week.

I can't stop crying.

I am so sorry. I hope something works out.

googley

how terrible. that is aweful that a T would put such a stipulation on seeing you. sounds unethical to me. the fact that you had to suspend therapy due to finances should not be a factor in being able to see T again. not a very empathic T in first place i would say. i know that probably doesnt help as you probably like T. just doesnt make sense. illogical. i wish i had somethig to say to make it better. sending lots of hugs.

So very sorry ... I agree with caliope. I don't understand why, if you have no money for T for a period while you are in between jobs, that that should be a reason for cancelling. These are circumstances beyond your control, unless another job immediately falls out of the sky and right into your lap.

Hugs and hope this works out somehow. If it was me, I'd be crying too ....

lots of safe hugs, googley

googley, I'm sorry--I hope you can work something out with your T. Don'tg give up.

I'm very sorry to hear that-it has got to be heartbreaking for you on many levels...It bothers me that your T would not be able to see you after you were able to be in a place financially to pay...to me that sounds like abandonment...and unethical...I hope something works out to were you feel in a better place with all of this...hang in there!

Hi Googley

I can only imagine how distraught you are feeling and that is completely understandable!

I am so sorry that the school decided to lay you off work. You should be compensated for having given up your last job to take the school job and then be left high and dry like that!

I hope you can work something out with your therapist. I know you have probably run through every option in your head already but I am just wondering if you could perhaps borrow the money from a family member or friend whilst looking for another job and then pay them back? I know this may not be possible though.

my heart goes out to you

(((((googley)))))

Does your school offer any mental health services? It sounds like you are in need of a new T anyway.

Ugh, SO sorry.
My T refused to work with me after I left her for a while for financial reasons. I don't want to give you any false hope but after we discussed things and why they were more stable now she did agree to take me back.

(((( Googley )))))
Sorry I can't think of more to say right now.

It isn't that she is trying to be mean. It is instead that I have had to stop and go with treatment a couple of times because of finances and she thinks it would be better for me to have someone better I could work continuously with. So she pretty much said last time that that was the last time she would be willing to stop and then start up again. It is hard for her too not knowing when I was going to be able to pay her. I just know that even if I was able to find someone I could see, I would never be able to get to the level of trust I have with my T right now. And that would be important as we were really delving into some stuff that I haven't been able to work through before.

My school limits T to 12 sessions for the whole time you are a student, and the school health insurance doesn't cover mental health (no it isn't covered by the parity laws as they are all individual policies that you buy and those are not required to have parity at this point.)

Why does the universe hate me?

Oh ((googley))

I am so very sorry.

(((((Googley))))) I'm so sorry you are hurting. I can relate to the insurance woes and finances as it relates to therapy. If I ever go back to my therapist or any therapist for that matter I too will be paying out of pocket. Until I go back to work therapy isn't financially feasable ( I don't need to go but it's one of those things because I don't have insurance to cover therapy I pray that I won't ever need to go back). PM me anytime googley

That's rough, Googley. What a shame... Hope something works out for you, I really do

Oh Googley,
I am so sad for you. I wish I had something hopeful and insightful for you but I am not feeling so hot myself. I just read your post and my heart goes out for you. I can relate when it feels like the universe is against you and you are getting kicked when you are already down. I am trying to be optomistic and hoping your t will be able to work something out with you. Hugs to you.

So sorry to hear that Googley. (((((Hugs)))))

I can understand a T saying that they can't guarantee to take you back - they have bills to pay and may not be able to keep a session open as this would affect their income - but I am really can't get her reasoning of why she wouldn't take you back if she had a place available and you could pay her - life is life, jobs can come and go along with someones abilty to pay, so I don't get at all, why she herself doesn't see this? Again if you were stopping and starting for other reasons, like lots of conflict situations with your T, again I could get my head round her saying it may be better for you to see someone else - but not because you have lost your job - seems like punishment for something that is beyond your control and not very caring - I am so sorry you are facing this, it must feel horrible - thinking of you

I imagine that this is hard, but if you have a history of leaving and coming back, it is hard to keep the flow of therapy going. Your T might find it difficult as well. Have you cut expenses that are "extras" like cable, internet, coffee, eating-out, gas, cell phone, etc. I have found cutting cable saved me $70 a month.

What about tutoring kids? You can charge like $20-$30 an hour.

The other option is to find a T who rate and put money into a savings account "just for T," so when you lose a job, the savings will cover it... especially since T is lower.

Another option is a public health clinic, where they operate completely on a sliding scale starting at costs like $5.00. It is all based on income. The T's are usually good, but busy.

Good luck!

Thank you everyone for your support. I am going to try and keep myself from making any drastic decisions for the next two weeks and see what happens. Hopefully by then something will have popped up.

((((googley))))

I hope that things work out for you!