Dependency...

Liam Grey · Sep 27, 2011, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats

So before whenever she was on holidays she would call me or text me. We did that for many years. She sent me a text last night saying that she would not be calling or texting me while she is on holidays now. She didn't even go anywhere so it's not like she'd be paying long distance. It kind of pisses me off because she never told me this before her holidays started. It just seems to random...-sigh-

Treating a topic that is so important to you with a cold and short text seems fairly uncorrect to me. From a human point of view and from a professional one as well.

Also I hope that she stopped invading your boundaries as she did in the past. Cause all her nice rules changes are worthless if she's still asking you to take her home from the airport or such.

rainbow8 · Sep 27, 2011, 10:46 AM

I agree with Liam. Your T has crossed boundaries with you and that helped make you dependent. I don't know what her intention was and that's puzzling. I'll be honest and say that it's hard to believe some of the things that you say she did for you. But whether she did them or not, you've become confused about what is appropriate for a T to do. It's not your fault! You don't want to change Ts and I can understand that!

Now that she's realized her mistake, she's changing the boundaries. It hurts ME to see how you've been hurt by the way she's treating you now. I hope that you can have an honest discussion with her about that. I don't know what else to say. i do have a question. Do you know what her therapeutic orientation is? Do you know if it's her belief that it helps to have a dual relationship with clients? I'm angry with your T! She seems totally unprofessional. I'd rather believe that you exaggerated the truth rather than believe a T could be so unethical.

I'm sorry to say all this but I feel you're suffering because of your T, not because you did anything wrong.

PTSDlovemycats · Sep 27, 2011, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

Now that she's realized her mistake, she's changing the boundaries.

Do you know what her therapeutic orientation is? Do you know if it's her belief that it helps to have a dual relationship with clients?

Rainbow, do you really think that she realized her mistake??
She is a psychodynamic T. Does that answer the question properly?
Thanks for all the hugs. Greatly appreciated.

PTSDlovemycats · Sep 28, 2011, 02:41 AM

I received a text from her today after I replied to hers telling her how hurt I felt. She replied saying that it isn't about not wanting to talk to me it is about needing to have time away from therapy. Understandable I guess. Right?