Anger and Negative Transference

I was at a dinner party last night and had to leave because I got triggered(they were talking about relationships and marriage and one guy got kinda graphic). Well, when I got home, I realized that anxiety and anger had begun to surface. I still have to call my friend back(the dinner party was at her house). I did all sorts of things to take care of myself today but now am stuck: My therapist has off tomorrow so I don't go in until Tuesday. I wrote her a letter(was going to fax it) saying that I needed to rest of the week off because I didn't want to come in and project, get angry, or deal with negative transference because she has been in relationships(she is married now) and I have never been in one. I feel extremely stuck and am really trying to help myself but right now I feel like isolating - how can she possible understand or even help me when she has been in relationships herself?
Should I skip therapy this week or go in? I really need some advice because I want to do the right thing.
Thanks!

There's that old saw that anytime you don't want to go to therapy is when you need to go the most.

I don't know that our T's can ever fully understand what anything is like for us. My marriage is not his marriage, etc etc. Just because you haven't yet been in a relationship doesn't mean that people who are married or in relationships can't understand what you're going through. After all, each one of us was once "never in a relationship" and most of us have had pretty substantial periods between relationships too. And lots of people, myself included, married later in life, so I was single for a long time. I know what it's like to be in a group of couples when you are single and it can really suck, even if you're not all that interested in being in one.

Don't avoid your feelings. Thinking that your T won't understand is really just an excuse to avoid them. Look your feelings in the eye, bring them closer to you, watch their power over you loosen its grip.

Anne

My heart goes out to you. There are so many feelings when you are alone and someone talks about being in a relationship...sometimes I like my life how it is, but sometimes it's like a tidal wave of sadness and jealousy for me.

Go to T. Even talk about how it's hard to share when she is in a relationship, share that it feels like she can't get how hurt you feel. Share it all, and see what unfolds. Sometimes it is just helpful to have a place to say and feel all this yuck.

Go.

The big tip-off is that you are trying to avoid it; when we do this is a sign we need to go.

Go. ...

I hope you have decided to go.

(((butterflies are free)))

please go and see your T. it seems you are working through something that is very, very emotional and that you need to hear a voice other than your own on the issue at hand. i wish you the best!

How's this...I'll go if you go! I will feel SO much better after I go, even if it doesn't go well! How's that? It might be the same for you. please reach out to your T as you are doing with us!

Thanks everyone - I did decide to go and even though it was a bit challenging, I had my T's support and you guys were right; talking about it with someone else really helped.
Thanks so much for all of the great replies!