Double Bind Messages & T....and Termination

There was no SET agreement. The agreement was always I could email, as often as I wished, and T would respond when he was able. ( 2 minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years....never).

There could be all kinds of reasons t has not gotten back yet that have nothing to do with you. T could even be out of office or out of town for a few days without you knowing it.is there anything you could do to distract yourself for awhile?

Lost in Termination,

Since you got 2 busy signals when sending the email, there might be something wrong with his getting emails. I would suggest you make a phone call.

I hope you get in touch with him and can process your relationship and the end of your therapy.

Initially, I did try and call him. TWICE. I left my first message and wanted to listen before I sent, I pressed the # key and got a busy signal. So I called back. This time I pressed the * key and it deleted my message and told me to re-record. I did. I pressed # key and it asked how I wanted to send it. Press certain buttons for certain options. I selected one requesting a call back and again, got a busy signal.

Then emailed.

I believe I know my T pretty well. If he is aware of my email and voicemails, he is either trying to decide if he can respond in a way which will not harm or hurt me (knowing how much it did hurt) or trying to locate another male T since during my last day he had the name of a female T to refer me and I made a comment about preferring a male T. If it turns out to be for his OWN personal reasons ( like "protecting himself" (#1 T's reason) or he is mad) then, I don't know. How do you hold anything positive from that?