T has been gone for three months now with her family emergency but still calls and emails. We talked a week ago. She promised to write back to some emails the inside kids had sent her and also to call over halloween weekend cuz she knows how triggering and hard it is for us.

We havent heard ANYTHING from her. Not even emails

So worried. She PROMISED. Something has got to be wrong.

Sending many hugs to you and to the kiddos who want them. (((hugs)))
It sounds like something important may have come up that needed her immediate attention, but I am hoping something is not seriously wrong. Sometimes things happen that are out of our T's control, and it majorly sucks when it's on a weekend we have such a hard time. (Don't EVEN get me started on how upset I am with E-T about this weekend)

Originally Posted by SarahMichelle

Something has got to be wrong.

Exactly. She has a very ill relative that is probably in some sort of medical crisis. Trust me. It can be non-stop and all-consuming to be caring for someone that ill. When things settle down, she'll get in touch with you. Sorry this is such a struggle for you.

[Ygrec23]

What FarmerGirl says is absolutely right. When my mother was dying I had to leave my own clients and get her back and forth to the ER, the rehab home, her home, back to ER, again and again, talking to her six (6) doctors, her nurses in the hospital, her home nurses, her rehab nurses, take care of Mom's house, bringing her clothes, books, whatever, all the time. It's really crazy, and if you haven't experienced it yourself personally you won't really understand. It takes up all of your time, entirely, leaving you less than enough to eat and sleep, much less to deal with your clients.

And that was my experience with a mother I hated and who created all my problems. Imagine how much worse it would be if a person loved their kind and loving mother? If you really try hard and put yourself in T's place, you wouldn't hurt as much as you do.

We got 2 emails from her this afternoon-- she replied to emails 2 of the kids had sent to her, not to me really. She said sorry she didn't call, things were crazy there, and she knows its hard to wait so long and that its disappointing. Said she misses us and loves us bunches. But she didn't say when she would call again
I KNOW we should be understanding...we know that... but our feelings are hurt. I know its unreasonable. But she said she'd call and she didn't. It was disappointing. We wanted her to MAKE time to call I know its dumb. She's got all that going on with her relative--and you guys are right, we know. So we're not being rational. We're a little mad, and our feelings are hurt. And we know we shouldn't feel that way, but we do anyway. We don't want to feel this way.

We've tried SO hard to be understanding for months on end....we just want her to come home.

It must be really hard on you. My T was away a month, and I know how that dragged for me. It sounds like your T is doing the best she can in a really bad situation, though. She obviously cares about you, just try to be patient -- as tough as that is.
Big hugs

She did end up calling last night kinda late. We talked for about 2 hours which was really nice. I couldn't say a lot because I have a really bad cold and its hard to talk and I have almost no voice so she talked a lot which was just fine.
They are thinking about coming home. She said something about trying to call yesterday about plane tickets. Apparently she and hubby or family are fighting over when to come home. I told her we vote for tomorrow. And since we have DID and there are 25 of us, we get 25 votes

[granite1]

i hope you are able to see her soon it has been a long wate