[BrokenNBeautiful]

My newest therapist cancelled my appt. today at the last minute, saying she "wasn't feeling too hot".

I have no proof that she was malingering or not, but judging from how I felt during our first interview and her cancelling at such short notice when she was not bedbound disturbed me. She did not sound sick. And she had made the appt. Friday. I wish she had called last night if she wasn't feeling well, unless she was in the ER. And our appt wasn't even a session just another 15 minute interview.

I am learning how to trust my intuition and it's still not much to go on.

I have learned that even with a lot of information to prove otherwise, when you don't feel right about someone, it's usually right.

I told my doctor today (he surprised me; he was on call) that I want to work with someone who is able to, not someone burned out, irritable, stressed, and so overworked that they can't be there for their clients!

He said he felt funny about her behavior and was going to "investigate this".

I have got serious trust issues, but at the same time, I have to honor how I am feeling.

Trust has to be earned by me, the consumer, not coerced.

I feel that this lady can't handle this.

And I can't handle that.

Billi

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by billi_leli

My newest therapist cancelled my appt. today at the last minute, saying she "wasn't feeling too hot".

I have no proof that she was malingering or not, but judging from how I felt during our first interview and her cancelling at such short notice when she was not bedbound disturbed me. She did not sound sick. And she had made the appt. Friday. I wish she had called last night if she wasn't feeling well, unless she was in the ER. And our appt wasn't even a session just another 15 minute interview.

I am learning how to trust my intuition and it's still not much to go on.

I have learned that even with a lot of information to prove otherwise, when you don't feel right about someone, it's usually right.

I told my doctor today (he surprised me; he was on call) that I want to work with someone who is able to, not someone burned out, irritable, stressed, and so overworked that they can't be there for their clients!

He said he felt funny about her behavior and was going to "investigate this".

I have got serious trust issues, but at the same time, I have to honor how I am feeling.

Trust has to be earned by me, the consumer, not coerced.

I feel that this lady can't handle this.

And I can't handle that.

Billi

This does sound odd. Maybe she's not ready to be a T yet.

But intuition can be wrong. My own intuition is often very paranoid.

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

This does sound odd. Maybe she's not ready to be a T yet.

But intuition can be wrong. My own intuition is often very paranoid.

Is it really your intuition then? Maybe it's worrying instead? But i know what you mean....if I'm going to fill in the gaps, sometimes it's negativity that creeps in..o

[ECHOES]

She may be a person who is uncomfortable saying more than "I don't feel too hot."
She can feel sick and cancel and isn't required to prove it or need emergency medical care. She may have health issues that aren't reflected in her voice. She may have hoped to have been feeling better and not have to cancel, but it turned out not to work out that way.

It would be really helpful and very kind of you, if you could accept that she felt poorly enough to cancel a session. It's a good sign that she takes care of herself, because if she doesn't take care of herself, then she can't be of help to others.

Your session is important and her feeling sick and cancelling doesn't change that. And I'm sure she'll understand when you tell her how her cancelling, especially at the last minute, can make you feel upset and can affect your ability to trust.

I am really sorry that your appointment didn't get to happen.
When will you and she meet again?

People get sick, often on very short notice. They don't always "sound" sick, but that doesn't mean they aren't. You probably should take her at her word. I'm sure you would want someone else to believe your word, right?

I'm sure the appointment will be rescheduled as soon as she gets back to work. Hope it goes well.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

This does sound odd. Maybe she's not ready to be a T yet.

But intuition can be wrong. My own intuition is often very paranoid.

I know that.

But I have been right about a lot of things lately.

Billi

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by mcl6136

Is it really your intuition then? Maybe it's worrying instead? But i know what you mean....if I'm going to fill in the gaps, sometimes it's negativity that creeps in..o

I spent 35 years wondering if I was crazy because I thought my aunt didnt' want me (she took care of me) and I was right. I was not crazy. She really didn't.

I can't waste any more of my life wondering about people.

thanks,

Billi

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

She may be a person who is uncomfortable saying more than "I don't feel too hot."
She can feel sick and cancel and isn't required to prove it or need emergency medical care. She may have health issues that aren't reflected in her voice. She may have hoped to have been feeling better and not have to cancel, but it turned out not to work out that way.

It would be really helpful and very kind of you, if you could accept that she felt poorly enough to cancel a session. It's a good sign that she takes care of herself, because if she doesn't take care of herself, then she can't be of help to others.

Your session is important and her feeling sick and cancelling doesn't change that. And I'm sure she'll understand when you tell her how her cancelling, especially at the last minute, can make you feel upset and can affect your ability to trust.

I am really sorry that your appointment didn't get to happen.
When will you and she meet again?

we aren't going to meet.

I wish I could believe the above. Part of me wants to. She could have honestly not been feeling well. But I have been thru 3 therapists now who have not come thru for me and I need a timeout.

thanks,

Billi

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by farmergirl

People get sick, often on very short notice. They don't always "sound" sick, but that doesn't mean they aren't. You probably should take her at her word. I'm sure you would want someone else to believe your word, right?

I'm sure the appointment will be rescheduled as soon as she gets back to work. Hope it goes well.

She could have been sick, I don't know.

But I am tired of people not coming thru for me now.

I need a timeout.

I will tell my doctor that I want to keep the possibility of therapy open, still, but not right now while I am feeling so raw.

This woman's cancellation came at a bad time for me and I still did not like how cold she was to me during our initial meeting.

Billi