[homealone]

I simply would like to to have another person explain to me just how I'm suppose to react to overt female sexuality and feel comfortable outside home.
I've had 30 or more therapist since I was 17, vast majority female, and not one safe to be around, and especially if feeling the affects of trauma. I've even had some analyze and interrogate me trying to make 'me' some kind of rapist or sexual predator.
Is there any thoughts about where a male/man could find another person, not claiming to be some kind of professional, who could explain how other people react and interact safely out in the world? So simple. Tom S. in Tn.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by homealone

Is there any thoughts about where a male/man could find another person, not claiming to be some kind of professional, who could explain how other people react and interact safely out in the world?

Are you looking for more of an academic discussion? Perhaps a research sociologist or psychologist would fill the bill. Many psychologists are not clinical psychologists so aren't "professionals" in the sense of treating patients as part of their jobs. But they have a lot of knowledge.

[homealone]

Originally Posted by sunrise

Are you looking for more of an academic discussion? Perhaps a research sociologist or psychologist would fill the bill. Many psychologists are not clinical psychologists so aren't "professionals" in the sense of treating patients as part of their jobs. But they have a lot of knowledge.

I've tried psychologist for several years during my life, and oddly, the more of them I've seen, the worse it turns out generally speaking. The last allowed a female client to roll a magazine up and begin shouting in my ear during an all female group therapy session. I still believe it was some sort of stupid social experiment by that psych who later now claims to be a forensic expert. I am unwilling to try anymore.
Are sociology research students or fellows willing to talk to individual people?
I'm quite familiar with social workers, but what/who exactly are research sociologist and where might they be found in middle Tennessee?
Thank you Sunrise for replying; Tom S. in Tn.

[ECHOES]

http://therapists.psychologytoday.co...Nashville.html

At the left of this site is a list of issues and if you open 'more...' it expands.
You might try contacting several of these folks and if they cannot help, they may know someone who can.

Speaking for myself, I would not want to see anyone but a licensed professional. My most helpful professional has not been any of the PhD's I have seen but the Licensed Mental Health Counselor/MSW that I currently am seeing. She could retire if she wished, but she loves her profession and continues training and education just because she enjoys it so much. This is psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy and the most helpful of the therapies I've been in before, particularly CBT therapies. Others are helped by those therapies, but I was not.

The experience you describe with the group sounds very bizarre. I'm sorry that your experiences haven't been helpful. I think there is excellent help out there and I hope you find the best for you.

[homealone]

I sincerely appreciate your concern ECHOES, but if I go the licensed provider route, I have to start with the BC/BS providers list. It's still a crap shoot, and the copays and time spent trying to find one capable and willing to actually perform can be overwhelming. Not enough time left in life.
Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of real nice people out there, they're just not capable being able to do any good. I saw a great social worker once, but she spent too much time trying to sell EMDR or some other kind of therapeutic tricks.

All I need is some one safe to who can explain what is right and how to react to overt sexuality seen out in society. Simple.
Tom S. in Tn.

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My replies are not being posted.
At any rate, thank you for your concern ECHOES, but if I go with a licensed provider, I must use the BC/BS provider list. Same list for the most part, just no way to know anything other than what you can find on the Tenn Board of Registry website about them. A lot of time and copays to figure out if they are willing and capable or what's going to occur with them.
Just would like to figure a route to find a real life person somewhere to explain how to view vulgarity and overt sexuality seen out in society. No one to help with fear and explain what's right. Psychs and social workers malfeasance is defended and never condemned. I despise being debased and made to be wrong.
No one to actually care. Quite frustrating, but one day I'm going to go out anyway.
Tom S. in Tn.

[sunrise]

Tom, research psychologists and research sociologists would be found at universities as faculty members. They may have lower level researchers in their groups who are also knowledgeable (and perhaps more accessible). The person you described who lost control of group therapy sounds like a (not very good) clinical psychologist who is in practice treating patients. This is not the same as non-clinical research psychologists, who don't treat patients. They teach and do research. I'm not sure if they can answer your questions but you wanted someone different from a practitioner. Another idea is to read the relevant research in psychology and sociology in a university library. Good luck.

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Sunrise;
Thank you for your efforts. In looking back, I'm left wondering if that PhD psych was not doing research with the whole group therapy thing. I was the lone sexually assaulted male among 6 to 7 sexually assaulted females. She later moved her operation and began advertising some sort of forensic specialty.

A similar incident occurred about 3 years later in a out patient day program I was in due to excessive anxiety. In that incident, the social worker in charge of the program began trying hard to elicit an anger response from me by belittling and debasing me in front of the 8 other members with a raised voice. The other members later were perplexed by her action, but in both incidents I believe I could see through the psych trickery of testing my level to anger and tolerance level to stress.

I was used for sociology and psychiatric studies in the late 50's and early 60's when I was a young child in Kansas and Arkansas that were associated with the VA through my illigit social worker father. My sister (.5 sister) was also psychologically molested and abused, and left severely permanently scarred. She earned 2 PhD's and lacked only dissertation for a 3'rd when she had a break down and quit. I know what social and psychiatric studies and experimentation are about, despite my paranoia and refusal of the world to accept what I say.
I do not need psych games. I need a person with basic intellect whom can be trusted.
A specific church perhaps ? Volunteers of some sort someplace ? Any help would be deeply appreciated. Tom S. in Tn.