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Dec 10, 2011, 12:58 AM
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T and I meet on Mondays. This coming Monday, my Dentist wants to see me during T time....it's the only time they have available. So I texted T yesterday to see if we could change our appt time. I don't text her often, but when I do she gets back with me within 24 hours.
Well...I hadn't heard anything by early afternoon today, so knowing it was Friday, and not wanting her to have to deal with this over the weekend, I called and left a message on her office phone. I thought maybe she didn't get the text, but I know she checks her messages. It's now 10pm on Friday and I have heard nothing from T. I'm really getting scared. She is usually on top of things like needing to change times, even if it's just to let me know that a time change won't work. I am started to feel panicky. I am starting to have thoughts like...."what if she's dead?" What if something happened to T? I'm trying not to turn this into a catastrophe for me...I'm trying to fight the trigger....but I'm losing. The thought keeps playing in my head....and I keep telling it to shut up....but it's not like her to not call or text to follow up on stuff like this. I don't like it. I'm really scared. I just want to hear from her to know she's okay. It would be my luck for something to have happened to her. It seems like that's the way that my life works....right when things are looking up....BAM!! I don't know if I can make it through the Holidays without T. Why hasn't she called? 
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#2
Dec 10, 2011, 01:15 AM
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maybe she wap sick or something like that? i hope its semething simple.
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Dec 10, 2011, 02:06 AM
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Elysium, I really understand how you're feeling. If it's any comfort, I do this quite often. My therapist is quite swift in returning my calls (although I very rarely call her) but if she doesn't get back to me until the next day I get pretty panicky and imagine the worse. The only time this happened was when I called her and another therapist who is her partner listened to the machine, but didn't relay the message to my therapist, so she missed my call. I called the next day and told her that I had left her message and she was so sorry that she had not gotten my message to call her back. She knows how much I worry about her, so she always makes sure she gets back to me because she knows I worry. She's helping me to manage those feelings, because she sees how debilitating they can be for me. When you have someone that helps you in such a tremendous way it's really easy to go into your head and imagine something has happened to them when you don't hear from them in the timely manner that you're used to. Since it's Friday and it's the Christmas season, she may have been out running some quick errands or something, got your text, was in the middle of some heavy task or driving and thought she'd wait until she could to text you back and then she forgot. She also may have left her office early today. My therapist doesn't work on Fridays, but when she does see a client on occasion on a Fridays it's usually for only a few hours. Maybe your therapist had one of those kinds of Fridays. I know it's hard not to think the worst. Take it from a champion therapist-worrier that things are never as horrific as I think up. She just either forgot to get back to me, she didn't get my message, or she was in a place where she couldn't immediately respond to me. I've been told a number of times by different people that 90% of the things that we worry about are never true. If it gives you some comfort and she seems to already allow you to text her, I would send her another text just saying you are worried and want to know she's okay so that you don't spend the weekend worrying. |
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Dec 10, 2011, 11:25 AM
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Dec 10, 2011, 01:21 PM
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It just doesn't make sense why she hasn't gotten back to me. I am reminding myself that T has a life and that it doesn't revolve around her clients. More than likely, she is just out of town or doing Holiday stuff or for some reason, hasn't realized I called and left a message. Maybe she is mad because I am wanting to switch the time? But to not return my call because of that would be passive-aggressive and I don't think T would behave that way. Oh....here I go....the client analyzing the T!! I wish she'd just call or text me back. This is agony. 
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Dec 10, 2011, 03:03 PM
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I would never move my T appointment for my dentist.
Better to lose my teeth than to lose my mind!
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#7
Dec 10, 2011, 03:55 PM
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I understand how hard it is when T doesnt respond! I hope you hear from her very soon.
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Dec 11, 2011, 05:14 AM
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I know how you feel. If someone is unusually late or isn't answering their phone or something the first thought I have is they must be dead. I know it is ridiculous but it just happens. For me the best thing to do is just think about logically and try and distract yourself. It is out of your control so there is no use worrying over it (easier said than done I know!). It is very unlikely that she has died and am sure everything is going to fine. Keep us updated!
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