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Dec 15, 2011, 12:55 AM
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So tell me,
How did you feel when you switched therapists? Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward?
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#2
Dec 15, 2011, 01:10 AM
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So tell me,
How did you feel when you switched therapists? I hated it. It wasn't my choice. Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? Yes, didn't work. When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? Yep because I was the common element with both of them. Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? It was horribly difficult on me. How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? About 6 weeks but that is mostly because my current T(the one I switched to) was exceptional. At the time, it was very difficult, hard to deal with. Now, I am so glad I switched as my current T is so so much better. |
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Dec 15, 2011, 01:43 AM
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How did you feel when you switched therapists?
I quit therapy with one therapist because it was no longer helping. I didn't intend to find a new therapist as I figured all therapy would be the same. So about 6 weeks after quitting when I went to see a new therapist at a friend's insistence, I immediately felt he could help me where the first had not been able to. I felt HOPEFUL. That was huge. Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? I don't believe I made any mistakes with my first therapist. She helped me for a while but then she was unable to help me with the really big stuff. She just didn't have the skills for what I needed. The fact that she couldn't help me doesn't mean I made mistakes. (I think it's kind of strange to assume that clients who move on to a new therapist must have made mistakes with the previous one!) When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? No. My therapy with my current therapist has been completely different from therapy with my first. I have never felt a need to repeat work I did with my first therapist (old business) with my current one. Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? It affected me in a positive way as I was with a new therapist who could help me. That gave me hope and made me feel like there was a way out of my problems. It gave me a first glimpse of "the other side." I've told my T several times that I sensed at our first session that he could help me, and that was why I glommed onto him as I have. A number of months later, I felt kind of bad about just leaving the first therapist like that. (I didn't intend to quit with her but just never went back.) In retrospect, I wish we had had a closure session where we reviewed what we had accomplished together and talked about my future. Also, I could have got the chance to thank for what she had helped me with. It just seems kind of rude that I left that way.  How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? I didn't really think about her much at all. I moved forward immediately. I was not attached to her at all and we did not connect in session like my current T and I do. I remember early in therapy with my new therapist, I had this daydream once where I speculated that my previous and new therapist met and I was there with them. The three of us together. It was on a sidewalk. I don't know why I had that daydream. Maybe it was my trying to connect the two therapy experiences--make sense of it all.
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Dec 15, 2011, 02:31 AM
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I don't assume ALL clients make mistakes.... speaking from personal feelings.... I could have put in.. what positive things did you take with you to your new therapist? but, that didn't identify with how I was feeling when I posted so I chose not too. so yeah.. just wanted to clarify
 oh and I think your daydream is really really interesting!
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Dec 15, 2011, 10:16 AM
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So tell me, How did you feel when you switched therapists?
Like a fresh new start, new chapter, clean notebook page...etc Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? All the time When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? Yes, frequently Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? It effected me a lot...I had NO trust after the last one, and it took over a year to gain trust with the new one. I kept expecting judgement and lectures, but I received encouragement and acceptance. How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? almost a year, but it was a healing year. My old T did a lot of damage. I am just starting to get into the original crap now.
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Dec 15, 2011, 01:57 PM
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Jazzy, I'm going to reply later, but just wanted to say hi, and I'm glad to see your post! I've changed Ts many times so I have a lot to say!
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Dec 15, 2011, 08:41 PM
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How did you feel when you switched therapists?
HORRIBLE. My 1st therapist dumped me out of NOWHERE one night, totally traumatizing. I tried NINE freaking new T's before I found my "new" T. I was totally grumpy and sick and tired. The 1st night we saw her, we told her we didn't like her because she wasn't old T. Now, we LOVE her. Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? YES, definitely When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? I am sure I have Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? Yes-- doing SOOOO much better with new T-- made more progress in one year with her than we did in 7 years with old T. How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? she dumped me 4 years ago-- I still think of her nearly every day--1st I was devastated about her leaving me. But my new T is SOOOOO amazing (and she thinks my old T was a total b*t*h ) that I don't really miss old T anymore--she was kind of a jerk! It took about 2 years to finally start moving forward from being dumped. Its still hard sometimes. |
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Dec 15, 2011, 11:51 PM
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How did you feel when you switched therapists?
The first time I felt totally miserable even though it was my decision to quit. Another time I was okay about it. This last time I felt scared but hopeful that I made a good decision to switch. Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? Yes, I tried to be more open with new Ts and not sit there and waste time not talking. I tried not to repeat my "pattern" of becoming too attached to them, too. When you try not to, do you ever still repeat them anyways? I kept repeating my pattern with each new T. Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? I wasn't okay with switching the first time. I shouldn't have quit suddenly the way I did. I should have tapered my sessions. How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? I spent most of the first 6 months or longer with my new T, talking about my former T. This was about 25 years ago and I still think about her sometimes, and bring up things in therapy now that I discussed back then. The way I quit was traumatic and I needed closure that I didn't get, which was my choice. This most recent switch, almost 2 years ago, was totally different! I was very attached to my former T but I stopped thinking about her after a few weeks with my new T. Jazzy, are you seeing a new T or are you still debating whether to stick with your former one? I thought you weren't in therapy anymore the last time you posted. |
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Dec 26, 2011, 09:16 PM
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So, I quit therapy for a while idk how long --then some life stuff happened so I saw a new one. so yes, i'm seeing a completley different person now, been with her for maybe a month. it's good to hear from you rainbow <3 i always smile when I realize a comment is coming from you
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Dec 27, 2011, 06:28 AM
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My personal experience is as follows:
I felt horrible when I switched therapists. But am ok with it now, I really like my new t..... I really hope not to make the same mistake with my new t.... With my old t I had a horrible case with "transference" ....and can almost garuntee that will not happen with my new t ( as she is a much older female ) ...... As far as thinking about my ex t I must confess I still think of him often.....There really isnt a day that goes by that he doesn't cross my mind ( but I did the best thing for me when I ended that therapist/patient relationship ) ..... I can say that even though I still think of him often, it really is getting better day by day... 
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Dec 27, 2011, 09:48 PM
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Dec 28, 2011, 01:25 AM
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I've been thrown around like a hot potato for a good while...
How did you feel when you switched therapists? I've never liked it.... Do you ever try to NOT repeat the same mistakes with your new therapist? Yes, lol. Theres ONE BIG thing that comes into mind over this. Ever since I was about 10 or 11yr the T at that time pointed out that I said "I dont know" a lot, and that became a game for a while about ALL the diffrent ways I could say "I dont know" in other phrases. lol. But it's something I still have to remind myself, "dont annoy the T with saying that! we can't do that!! we gots to figure out something other than the cheap shot of saying we dont know!" lol When you try not too, do you ever still repeat them anyways? Yup lol, but lately i catch myself before I'm even finished with "I dont know" and will usually pause and think a bit more on it then gather a diffrent answer that has more meaning to it. Did switching therapist effect you at all or we're you mostly okay with it? I never liked switching.. I've had a LOT of T's in my life. but only really grew close to one. How long did it take you to stop thinking about your old therapist and move forward? ... Each T is diffrent, so... it's not like my new T is replacing any in the past. They all have a diffrent role i guess.... One that can't be replaced.. So therefore, I don't stop thinking about my old therapist (unless i wasn't close to them.. then... that's diffrent.. lol)
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Jan 02, 2012, 10:10 PM
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different roles....... i do think this therapist will have a different role in my life then my other one... so ... I don't know how to stop casually thinking about my old T from time to time, just pops in my head. wish I could stop tho. but, thx--last two comments for posting
Im so late in my response... didn't realize anyone added to the convo.
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