Met my new T for the first time.

So yes, I had my first session with my new T the other day. It went pretty well and she seems nice. We just had a getting to know each other kind of session and she asked me a lot of questions she would have already known the answers to since she has my file. I'm not sure what the point of that was but I played along with it.

Anyway, I had promised myself I would tell her about the occasional SI that I sometimes do (scratching with a thumb tack). I want to get it sorted out before it escalates but I couldn't bring myself to tell her. The problem is, I am not seeing her for another three weeks and I know this is going to be bugging me and I don't know what I should do. Should I just wait until next session? Or should I try and book another one like next week or something? I don't want to seem to needy and dependent and generally annoying. I need to make a decision soon though because I may not be able to get another appointment in if I don't book soon.

Hey Retro Chic,

My guess is that, although she has your file, she just wanted to get the story from you first hand and not rely on what others have written in your file, as your take on your life is the most important. Also she may have wanted to see if anything had changed since the notes were written.

You don't have to answer this, but perhaps think about what you want from telling her you SI. Is there a reaction you are hoping for? What if it does or doesn't happen?

Why is there a 3 week gap before your next session hun?

Thanks for the reply!

Yeah, you are probably right in regards to asking me all those questions again. I didn't mind her asking I was just puzzled.

I am not really looking for a particular response from T when I tell her about the SI. Obviously, I want her to be understanding and not freak out or anything. The reason I think I should mention it is because I think it would be kind of pointless going to therapy and not really talking about all of the issues. I think that would just be a waste of time for both of us.

I am meant to be seeing her fortnightly but for some reason that wasn't possible with the first two sessions so there is three week gap. It is kind of annoying because I have just started seeing her and I would like to get to know her more quickly so I can get comfortable opening up to her more quickly. I will call up and see if I can get in sooner or get put on the wait list or something.

hi that's great the session went fairly well ... and with the questions I think part of asking things is just as dizgirl said letting you tell your story, and also allows the two of you to start building the therapeutic relationship. If you can schedule another appointment sooner than three weeks that might be good

I really want to try and book another appointment but I don't want to seem needy. I have only just met this woman and I don't want her first impression of me to be that I am annoying and dependent. What to do? I also feel stupid that something so simple is such an issue for me.

Are you allowed to call or e-mail her in between sessions? Maybe you could call or e-mail and either say that there is an issue that you feel like you want to get out before your next session. Or just say you would like to see her earlier than three weeks b/c there is something I want to share with you.

Don't worry about seeming annoying or too dependant.. she is a T and well she is used to people depending on her!! It is good that you feel you can trust her enough to share your SI issues with her.

I don''t know about you but with me, self injury has a funny way of escalating unless it is caught in time. I would try to get in to see her sooner rather than later. And kudos to you for having the courage to share something this important.

The vast majority of patients are needy in some way or another. Recognising what you need and asking for it directly is part of the healing process.

So I called and tried to get an earlier appointment but the only times that are available are in the middle of the day which doesn't fit in with my 9-5 work schedule. Since the situation is not dire I have just asked to be put on the wait list if any suitable times pop up. Kind of annoying but it is what it is.

Good for you for calling and asking.. It sucks that they didn't have something available that suits your timing, but at least you made the call and made it on a wait list!