[Silent_tsol]

How do you book your appointments? Do you book your next one at the end of your session? Do you have a set time? Do you call or email requesting one? Does your T have a receptionist who arranges appointments?

My T doesn't have a receptionist and at first she would ask if I wanted to book the next appointment before I left but then I was going every other week and I didn't have my work schedule so I began emailing her. Lately I've been getting really nervous about sending that email (which has been for weekly appointments). I try to talk myself out of going sometimes. So I've been thinking about seeing if she has a time I could go each week. I just hate asking for things that aren't offered to me

[BlessedRhiannon]

I have a standing appointment for the same time/day each week. I always verify that we're good for the following week at the end of my session, just in case either of us has had a schedule change and need to move my appointment. The only time I have to call to schedule an appointment is if I need to move my appointment to another date/time.

I think I had a set date/time by like the second or third session...at the end of the session, T asked if that date/time would work for me long term and I said yes, and she said it was mine. That was that.

[lostmyway21]

We schedule at the end of session. For my first weekly session on monday its always the same, unless schedule conflict. (like him being off today) and my second weekly appointment is either thurs/fri depending on our schedules. I only emailed for our first session, and then to try and get an emergency session once.

[pbutton]

T schedules mine at the end of the session.

I totally understand not wanting to ask for something.

We have had a set time/day since the start. Sometimes it got off a little, but that is not the norm.

We schedule the next session at the end of each session. We don't really have a set schedule, although my appointments for the last several weeks have been pretty consistently at the same time. My schedule is flexible, and I don't have a need to have the appointments at the same time each week, so he tends to move me around more than other clients.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by Silent_tsol

So I've been thinking about seeing if she has a time I could go each week. I just hate asking for things that aren't offered to me

That's part of learning to stand up for yourself in life in general? You go to the bar and ask the bartender for a drink? Or do you only go if accompanied by a male and he orders your drink for you (maybe he asks you what you want, or maybe he decides for you). It wasn't that long ago that that's how "nice girls" were taught to behave (in some places they still are?). Or look at it from the baby in the crib's perspective. You sound like me, an easy child - you quietly wait for mum to show up, you're not going to ask for anything that's not pre-offered. Well, how does anyone else know what YOU want? And why would they care, really? Would YOU care if the person next to you on the bus wanted a college education? I hope they're not waiting for YOU to offer it to them. Okay, that's a ridiculous exaggeration, but that's where it ends, once you start down that road of not taking personal responsibility. The fact that you are seeing T, means you have like a standing offer to adjust the appointment time. So consider it offered. But yeah, there is still all this STUFF behind ANY T stuff!

[Silent_tsol]

I'm pretty flexible too. I'm a college student so I have like 3 and 6 hour blocks through the week and I work part time. So I even feel a little bit demandy saying "I'm available here here and here and here and here. I have an issue with over thinking things. Like "on which day do I email her? I should give her some notice but I wouldn't want her to confuse the days and I don't want to seem to needy by emailing too soon after the last appointment".

Le sigh

[Chopin99]

Until the last couple of months, I would make appointments one week at a time with the practice receptionist. Recently, T has actually scheduled me herself. Two reasons, I suppose. The receptionist has been gone some days when my session ends a little after 5pm. I also think T wants me to be able to have the latest appointments I can get (4:00 is usually her last appointment) and the days I'm available change from week to week due to my own work schedule. We've been scheduling 3 weeks at a time. I think it's just easier that way!

[healed84]

At the end of our session my T says okay I will see you back here in however many days or weeks. Then, if the receptionsist is still in the office she will schedule me for my next appointment. She tries to keep it at around the the same time and day. Before I started seeing my current T, I saw a T in the same practice (didn't last long he left on medical leave) and he always scheduled his own appointments and not the receptionist.. So, I was suprised with my current T didn't do it himself.

I schedule my appointments through T's secretary generally a couple of weeks in advance. She calls all patients (including for the two pdoc's in the practice) the day before confirming the appointment.

[nicoleb2]

I schedule with the receptionist. We're only supposed to be able to schedule like 3 appointments out, but I am scheduled every week for the next 2 months, each week, I go schedule another week

[faith1983]

I have a set time... I realize I'm lucky to have a such thing cause just like you, I hate asking for stuff; if t would ask me when I want to meet next, I would say something like "I don't really need to meet again so thank you for all you've done for me" so that I don't look like I need him!

I hope you'll find the strength to ask your t for what you need, it could really make things easier!

I have a fairly set time. But t usually asks at the end of a session " so when you coming to see me again?" i might say "tomorrow?" if i need to and she will either say well tomorrow isnt good for me or you want to? I can do tomorrow.
All depends on both our schedules. All left kind of loose.

[Hope-Full]

I have standing appointments that are booked out indefinitely. The only time we have to adjust is if there is a conflict (T out of town) or if I want to schedule an extra appointment. Then we do that at the beginning or end of my appointment when I bring up the adjustment.

I agree, it can be tough to ask for something like this, but it's good practice for life, and T is a great person to practice life with.

[Perna]

That's when I take advantage of the whole "business" end of the therapy situation, I concentrate on appointments and money like it was any other professional/doctor visit. If she does not have a set time, it isn't at all about you and whether she wants to see you or not but just her schedule. Maybe ask in a round-about way? "I might be interested in a set appointment day/time if you have any vacancies?". Don't show all your cards just "might be" as if you have reservations too and, the "if you" part puts it on your T first, if they don't have any vacancies, that isn't your fault for asking and the "might be" implies that you might not be, you haven't decided yet :-)

with my DBT therapist we have a set time each week. and with my private psych we make the appt at the end of the session, usually for the same day but the time varies.

[faith1983]

"I might be interested in a set appointment day/time if you have any vacancies?". Don't show all your cards just "might be" as if you have reservations too and, the "if you" part puts it on your T first, if they don't have any vacancies, that isn't your fault for asking and the "might be" implies that you might not be, you haven't decided yet :-)

I love that!!

[confused and dazed]

Originally Posted by Silent_tsol

How do you book your appointments? Do you book your next one at the end of your session? Do you have a set time? Do you call or email requesting one? Does your T have a receptionist who arranges appointments?

My T doesn't have a receptionist and at first she would ask if I wanted to book the next appointment before I left but then I was going every other week and I didn't have my work schedule so I began emailing her. Lately I've been getting really nervous about sending that email (which has been for weekly appointments). I try to talk myself out of going sometimes. So I've been thinking about seeing if she has a time I could go each week. I just hate asking for things that aren't offered to me

I have a standing appointment, same time, same day of the week, evey week. T has no receptionisit, he books himself. If one one us needs to change the time, it is done in email or in session. ( I am the one who usally changes the time). So at the end of session it kinda goes like this: " see ya next week" or "can you start 30 mins later". The answere is yes or no. Takes less than a min. (T usualy can start 30 min later)
Hugs

[Unrigged64072835]

My T sees me at the same time each week unless he is off that day. He schedules the appointment himself.

[JustWannaDisappear]

Originally Posted by Silent_tsol

How do you book your appointments? Do you book your next one at the end of your session? Do you have a set time? Do you call or email requesting one? Does your T have a receptionist who arranges appointments?

My T doesn't have a receptionist and at first she would ask if I wanted to book the next appointment before I left but then I was going every other week and I didn't have my work schedule so I began emailing her. Lately I've been getting really nervous about sending that email (which has been for weekly appointments). I try to talk myself out of going sometimes. So I've been thinking about seeing if she has a time I could go each week. I just hate asking for things that aren't offered to me

My T has a standing day/time for me. Sometimes it gets taken if we don't schedule far enough in advance or I've not been able to see her for a week or two. My son sees a T in the same practice and she does not schedule appts herself. I have to call the receptionist and because she fills up fast you have to schedule for 6weeks out, which stinks if something comes up or I end up having to work that day.