[mommyof2girls]

Well its been a few months now ( since the last time I saw my ex t ) , and I am still thinking of him..... I really wish that I could send him an email and let him know how I am doing with my new t ...... There is just so much I want to tell him...This really sucks..... I could call him and leave a message...will he think I am crazy.....Yikes ....UGH !!!!!

I think you would only be stirring up your feeling for your old T and creating more problems for yourself. Let the temptation pass.

Originally Posted by farmergirl

I think you would only be stirring up your feeling for your old T and creating more problems for yourself. Let the temptation pass.

I do think these feelings come in waves, and if we can ride out the wave, they calm down again. And then there is another wave later, but we have some practice riding it out, and it's a little easier.

Is there something else you can do that would make that feeling less big? You reached out here. Would contacting your new T help?

Sometimes I can distract myself by doing something physical like going outside for a walk or cleaning something..just getting away from the computer (or whatever else is tempting me).

I'm sorry it's still so hard

[mommyof2girls]

Thanks treehouse and farmergirl for your replies.....The "healthy, sane, mature" part of me knows that I should not contact him at all ( or at least at this time in my life ) ......Its the "selfish, immature, unwell " part of me that wants to contact him at this time..... I have a plan in place with my new t that if i get the urge to call my old t I can call my new t, and even my mother in place of calling him...... I just wish that these urges would go away already.....

[SallyBrown]

Sorry you're going through this, M2G. It seems like you know you shouldn't -- and I think your plan for what to do if you find yourself slipping (call current T or your mom) is great.

The urges can be terrible -- do you and your T talk about what is behind them? What is it you're hoping to get by contacting old T? Love? Sexual attraction? Attention? It might help more to actually address the urges by finding for yourself what it is you're looking for... just from a source that's going to be healthy for you.