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#1
Feb 04, 2012, 05:24 PM
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****TRIGGER*******
Mention of Sui. Has anyone contacted their T over the wknd when they were having an emergency or feeling really really depressed? My T contradicted himself & idk I'm really not sure I should reach out to him... The past 2 weeks have been great for me buttttt like always down I come again. I knew it was gonna happen so I made a point to ask him 3 sessions ago about wknd contact & he said if I'm feeling Sui or THAT bad depressed to go to the nearest ER. & told me that he needs his space too. (& he'll prolly be drinking on the weekends, haha) Then....yesterday's session I felt it. I felt the down coming on, I told him and he said you can email me over the wind but it's NOT GuARANTEED when ill anwser (like I email now, he may get back to me sun) is what he was saying is a possibility. But he said he'll talk to me, & hopefully that 'works' till our next session BUT he said if after we hang up or done emailing that he feels strongly I will do Sui...he WiLL call the police to my house. I said if he does that, our relationship is over...to which he replied, it usually is. Idk if I should email him  . I DON'T want to talk to him on the phone. I do want to give him his space he deserves but I go so low these days it's scary & I've been in bed all day crying off & on (it's 2:30pm here). I really don't have anyone else to talk to or I would do that.But if I did IDk what he would say that would make me feel better. It's not like he's gonna offer sat appt! Why bother him when nothing he says is gonna make me feel better :/. Idk....I hate hate hate my life & I kind of hate my T. This is SO unreasonable, I know...but I just wish he would come hang out with me, even play a computer game over the Internet, or pick me up & take me to the hosp. ANYTHING. Wow I'm really losing it. Sorry everyone I just can't get stable & dealing w/ T & all the emotions that go along with it is too much sometimes. Thanks for listening. Oh & I guess I forgot he I am on his Facebook (along w/ some other clients) && I posted last night 'what goes up, will come crashing down. It always does' and I KNoW he saw it. Any pics I post he comments on like oh I saw you posted a pic of you and your kids at the park! That looked nice. & he says it's nice to see what *some* of his clients are up to via fb. So, point being, he knows I'm already going or am down.... I wonder if he's expecting an email. I wish he'd reach out & email ME. ..I've never contacted him off hours or weekend ever!.... Last edited by vanessaG; Feb 04, 2012 at 05:34 PM. Reason: Add some info |
 Anonymous33425, FourRedheads, lostmyway21, skycastle, WePow
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#2
Feb 04, 2012, 05:35 PM
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One thing that helps me at times is the chat here...
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“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.” Gandhi |
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#3
Feb 04, 2012, 05:37 PM
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"But if I did IDk what he would say that would make me feel better."
"but I just wish he would come hang out with me, even play a computer game over the Internet, or pick me up & take me to the hosp. ANYTHING." Sounds like maybe you just want to connect with him, and he told that its fine to e-mail or call, so I think it'd be okay for you to do that -- maybe you don't need him to have great wise words so much as just a sense of his presence/connection. I've noticed a lot of people on the boards express a need like this sometimes and they and their therapists seem to work with it. The biggest thing is that your therapist said it is okay to reach out if you need it. That's very different though from being truly in a crisis, in which case it is probably still appropriate to call T but keep in mind he's going to reach out and try to find people who can address that issue (i.e. calling 9-1-1). This sounds like something it'd be really important to be clear about.. I hope you can talk to your therapist about this when you meet with him sometime! I would hate not knowing! |
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#4
Feb 04, 2012, 06:03 PM
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So you're like in california and you hate your life? what chance do the rest of us possibly have? but like mikej says, we're here, wasssup? are you on meds? why are you so predictably mood-swingy?
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#5
Feb 04, 2012, 06:21 PM
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Thinking of you! Sometimes all we need to do is reach out in email. Maybe you can just vent but let him know you are safe?
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#6
Feb 04, 2012, 06:29 PM
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Sometimes, just reaching out is helpful, even if your T can't instantly make it all better. I'd say, email your T or call, and just say that you need to connect because you are feeling really down.
If you email T, or call and leave a message, then T can return the email or call when he's free. You're respecting his space by not expecting an immediate answer.
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#7
Feb 04, 2012, 06:45 PM
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Hmm I wouldn't call him unless it was a true crisis. I have called T once on weekend and he immediately answered and sorted it out. I AM respectful of his personal time. I DO email him throughout weekend sometimes daily like were agreed on and sometimes I spam. I do NOT expect a response. He has a life and I know that.
I would make sure you clarify this with him next session. Contradictions can be super confusing and hurtful. If it is an emergency I would call but if your just looking for a connection (which is perfectly understandable) I would email and wait for a response. The only thing that sticks out to me is that your on his fb? I would think that would be really hard to maintain boundries? I know me personally I would probably posts things just for a reaction. Like especially if I couldn't get a response, through email. (just being honest)  I hope you feel better. 
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#8
Feb 04, 2012, 07:14 PM
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Yeah I need to try chat on here again. & work out some technical difficulties cause I tried last time & it didn't work (I only have Internet on my iPhone) I don't have comp at my house.
Yeah...California ...good old California. It's so expensive to live here it's ridiculous but it's sunny 8 nice outside & almost makes me feel worse in a way since its so nice. If it was raining at least it'd match my mood! Idk about my meds. I've been on them since AUG and the only change I see is when I go low I go waaaayyyyy low. It's frustrating n idk maybe I'm just one of the few that nothing works? Hopefully therapy can help even just a lil bit... I have hope for that. I'm on lithium,lamictal, & parnate cause I've taken pretty much every SSRI the past 10 yrs with no relief. It's obviously not working. Yeah my T on fb, I like it cause if I feel I need to see him or whatever I can but at the same time, I've found myself posting stuff for him to read sooo...I asked him about his fb and he said he watches what he posts on there and nothing crazy or too personal and he has nothing to hide. Who knows he probably has 2 fb. I didn't email him I really trying to ride it out, hoping it'll go away but it's not so I guess I will email him before it gets late...I just hate reaching out I guess. I'm going to ask him what is ok contact on weekends & stuff. I won't call. Unless I'm like dyinggghh. But I guess I'll email him that I'm feeling like crap :/. I HOPE he doesnt w/b it'll get better have a great weekend. Ugh I think that's why I'm not emailing him. Afraid of THAT response! That'll really send me into the hole. Thank u guys for listening 
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#9
Feb 04, 2012, 07:26 PM
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Oh and I'm working an overnight, and I am super bored. Sooo I can listen ALL night if things get hard for you. 
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#10
Feb 04, 2012, 07:37 PM
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(((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))) I can relate your not suiciadal only want to end the pain. I so can relate. It is a crisis, and phone immedalty please. Keeping you in my thoughts/prayers
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#11
Feb 04, 2012, 07:52 PM
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Lost my way- yes I do! Or maybe like 'keep your head up, your a strong girl, think of your kids'. Yes that type of response will NOT help. In fact it'll probably make me feel worse. Ill ask for a longer response if he can...I don't wanna put pressure on him lol. SEE! Always worried about HiM!!! Crazy!
Thank You! yeah I'm 'holed' up in my room so I'll pretty much be on all nite. Talking to you guys is actually making me feel a lil better/distracted so I'm hoping I won't have to email at all.. •fingers crossed•
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#12
Feb 04, 2012, 07:58 PM
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#13
Feb 04, 2012, 08:11 PM
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Haha! Oh believe me I WANT to but I think my self restraint comes from me being scared of termination! Lol plus I e been on here/googling stuff/on my T fb page since about 2pm today lol!
I literally have NO support IRL. Not one! (that's not paid!) thank god for here
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#14
Feb 04, 2012, 08:33 PM
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Aww, sweetie. It's hard, I know. You aren't alone. We are here. We ARE real life. So is your T.
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