I've spent quite a bit of today with a migraine and just feeling physically ill. I'm just not sure I'm up to facing my T tomorrow. The last few weeks have just been too too hard. I just need some time and space. That's reasonable, right?

[PreacherHeckler]

Originally Posted by My kids are cool

I've spent quite a bit of today with a migraine and just feeling physically ill. I'm just not sure I'm up to facing my T tomorrow. The last few weeks have just been too too hard. I just need some time and space. That's reasonable, right?

No. Not reasonable. Go to therapy.

[learning1]

IDK. I was pretty seriously thinking about dropping my session but now I'm planning to go. I don't want to have to keep wondering. Maybe it will get better if you go? At least the problems in therapy if not the health stuff.

[pbutton]

Not reasonable. Get your hiney to therapy or I will hunt you down and drive you there myself. Your T wants to help you. It's only an hour.

You need to get past this visit. You're a strong person, you can do this. We will be waiting for you when you get out. We'll have cake. Or cobbler. Possibly both.

[critterlady]

One of my most productive sessions was when I went with a migraine. I didn't have the energy to keep my usual defenses up and we got a lot of work done.

[beautiful.mess]

I agree with the others. Go to your session. Remember that it's when we don't want to go that is the time when we really should be there; the only way out is through.

[healed84]

Goooooooo!

[FourRedheads]

Go! We are all still with you in your pocket, cheering you on.

[stopdog]

I think it depends on if you feel so sick you think you could not pay attention or concentrate - then it would seem best not to go. If it would soothe you just to be there with the t even if you felt ill, then perhaps going would not be so bad (here I am picturing a sort of calm, dark oasis sort of thing).
When I get migraines, sound and light are too much, so I would choose not to go.

[Chopin99]

My gut says GOOOOOO, but the voice of reason, aka "stopdog" (hey stopdog...you still remind me of my H every time you post ) has a good point. I don't think I'd be able to concentrate with a migraine. When I get one, I have to stay in a dark room with no sound. Driving is almost impossible.

If you can get there despite the migraine, I'd encourage you to go.

If I was feeling physically ill I don't think I would get much out of the session. Hopefully you'll feel better by the time of your appointment?

MKAC , only you know if you are utilizing the illness as an excuse to delay something that's inevitable or are truly to ill to make it. Also, think about the fact you will continue to " think" about thing for another week or two.
On another note, get better soon.

[unaluna]

Wow, tough crowd! I'm picturing Mrs Slocum of Are You Being Served? in her pink hair saying, "...and I am unanimous in this!..." Me? I respectfully and supportively abstain!

I think the migraine is at least partly stress. So the question, I guess, is whether I will feel less stressed by next week, or more. Will the whole thing just get bigger and more embarrassing between this week and next? Probably bigger and badder, huh?

And thinking about this I realized that the only times my mom was really nice to me when I was sick. And my husband is so sweet when I am sick or really depressed that it has really left me with the feeling that he likes me BETTER depressed or sick or injured. So, I'm wondering if feeling this sick is just stress or maybe a way of deflecting attention away from my behavior last week? Trying to elicit sympathy from T instead of the shaming that I expect (even though he isn't like that all; that's what my past experiences have taught me to expect).

Anyway, you guys are right. I can get through this. Maybe. Mostly. I won't actually DIE from embarrassment, and you guys will be there with me in spirit. And there will be cake and cobbler after, right? And pbutton right outside the window. LOL.

Get some rest, tomorrow all will be made right! Sweet dreams!

[PreacherHeckler]

Yes, we'll all be there with you in spirit. Even stopdog with her adorable empathetic detachment.

[stopdog]

Yes, should you choose to go, I certainly send best wishes for it to be successful or at least not completely go awry.

[Chopin99]

Originally Posted by hankster

Wow, tough crowd! I'm picturing Mrs Slocum of Are You Being Served? in her pink hair saying, "...and I am unanimous in this!..." Me? I respectfully and supportively abstain!

At least Mrs. Slocum wasn't in her blue hair starting to tell one of her stories that starts with, "My p***y..."

Mr Humphries, are you free?

[Snuffleupagus]

I think if you don't go and get through the inevitable embarrassment, you might well regret it for the next week. And as nasty as migraines are (I know), regret can feel worse. Compound that with another week of dread, and going sounds even better.

[bluemountains]

In reading through the posts, it sounds like you will be able to handle this, mkac! You can do it, and we're with you all the way.
Bluemountains

[sittingatwatersedge]

I'll go with you if you need some reinforcement. Sometimes when I feel like I'm at the rope's end, seeing T is just what helps. Remember that you don't HAVE to talk about anything in particular, you can just be there for the hour and feel supported, understood, if that's what you need.

[granite1]

MKAC i hope you are feeling better today.i bet a lot of it is stress.you dont have to go and have a real heavy session if you feel you need a little time to back off.remember you are in charge, jumping in your pocket if you want some company.

[likelife]

You outlined lots of great reasons to go, MKAC. I hope it goes well.

Let us know how it goes... I'll be thinking about you

[wintergirl]

You've received loads of good advice so far, and I know if I were in your shoes, I would likely regret not going to T.

I hope it goes well. You might feel better just by being in the same room with T for a bit!

I've been trying to space my appointments out to every three weeks, but I had a "therapy breakthrough" last week, and it is so hard to wait! (I put it in quotes because prior to therapy, I thought that breakthrough stuff was complete crap, but apparently I was WRONG). I'm trying to be done seeing T in May (ugh).