T as life observer?

sconnie892 · Feb 29, 2012, 06:43 PM

Today I was thinking I wish T could follow me around and observe everything I do during the day (okay, maybe not everything

). I wouldn't want T to interact with me, but just be a silent observer of how I spend my time, my interactions, my ups and downs to get a complete picture of who I am - not just the person I tell her I am in sessions. I suppose if I knew T was following me I might act differently.

Does anyone else wish their T could observe them like this?

lostmyway21 · Feb 29, 2012, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by sconnie892

Today I was thinking I wish T could follow me around and observe everything I do during the day (okay, maybe not everything

). I wouldn't want T to interact with me, but just be a silent observer of how I spend my time, my interactions, my ups and downs to get a complete picture of who I am - not just the person I tell her I am in sessions. I suppose if I knew T was following me I might act differently.

Does anyone else wish their T could observe them like this?

Soo weird I was just thinking I wish T could do this the other day.

shoez · Feb 29, 2012, 07:14 PM

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Originally Posted by sconnie892

Today I was thinking I wish T could follow me around and observe everything I do during the day (okay, maybe not everything

). I wouldn't want T to interact with me, but just be a silent observer of how I spend my time, my interactions, my ups and downs to get a complete picture of who I am - not just the person I tell her I am in sessions. I suppose if I knew T was following me I might act differently.

Does anyone else wish their T could observe them like this?

ALL THE TIME.

I was thinking about this all last week...that if T could just folllow me around without me knowing she is...she could see how much I struggle and really get a sense of everything ..
*sigh*

healed84 · Feb 29, 2012, 07:51 PM

Yes, I have thought that before.

pbutton · Feb 29, 2012, 08:13 PM

I don't think it would do much good. The way I act at work and the way I am in my head at work are at opposite ends of the spectrum. I'd need him to see what I'm THINKING all day long. That might actually do me some good.

precious things · Feb 29, 2012, 08:20 PM

I FEEL like he can see me throughout the day because he tends to rmember the most random details of my life..(where I grocery shop, what music I listen to in my car, etc)....it always makes me do a "whoa...maybe he can see me throughout the day". Nope...just a darn good listener.

Towanda · Feb 29, 2012, 08:40 PM

I wish my T could follow me around for a week - at home, in training for the local women's shelter, at school. All the places where I function as an independent, competent adult. Maybe then he could see someone besides the needy, clinging child I seem to be bringing into session lately.

Feb 29, 2012, 08:41 PM

No, that would be horrifying for me. LOL. Noooo!

critterlady · Feb 29, 2012, 08:43 PM

I think it would freak me out. I was a little panicked when I saw him at the gas station and I don't even know if he saw me.

ECHOES · Feb 29, 2012, 08:47 PM

Yes, I've even told T this.
There are 2 reasons. One is that I wish I had someone like her to guide me in the moment.
And the other is that I am so disconnected from myself, and when something is past, it's past, so attempting to bring it to therapy (and finding the words and feelings) seems impossible a lot.

critterlady · Feb 29, 2012, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by pbutton

I don't think it would do much good. The way I act at work and the way I am in my head at work are at opposite ends of the spectrum. I'd need him to see what I'm THINKING all day long. That might actually do me some good.

The idea of him seeing what I actually think all day terrifies me!

sconnie892 · Feb 29, 2012, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ECHOES

...And the other is that I am so disconnected from myself, and when something is past, it's past, so attempting to bring it to therapy (and finding the words and feelings) seems impossible a lot.

I have this too...when something's done it's done to my conscious brain and I either can't or just simply forget to bring it up in therapy. Often though I've tucked it in some deep recess of my mind only to have it show up later.

Kind of why I want T to follow me around and observe all that stuff I tuck away.

beautiful.mess · Feb 29, 2012, 09:04 PM

I do. But I think that it wouldn't be a good thing for me because then I wouldn't need to talk to him - he'd already know about my life!! On the other hand, him knowing things without me having to talk much would lift a HUGE weight off of me. 50m once a week is not enough most times, and it would be a great time saver. LOL.

Nelliecat · Feb 29, 2012, 09:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Towanda

I wish my T could follow me around for a week - at home, in training for the local women's shelter, at school. All the places where I function as an independent, competent adult. Maybe then he could see someone besides the needy, clinging child I seem to be bringing into session lately.

^^^ yes, this!

learning1 · Feb 29, 2012, 10:17 PM

I imagine talking to him about the most inane, boring details of my life. Then I'm embarrassed when I realize I'm doing it. I guess I want someone to care about my tiniest thoughts and decisions. If I actually do run into anyone who I look up to, like t's, former t's, teachers, former teachers, I'm extremely self conscious, so it wouldn't really work.

Chopin99 · Feb 29, 2012, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by pbutton

I don't think it would do much good. The way I act at work and the way I am in my head at work are at opposite ends of the spectrum. I'd need him to see what I'm THINKING all day long. That might actually do me some good.

I'm with you. I act "relatively" normal; fairly quiet and pretty productive at work, more outgoing and fun-loving with friends. She needs to be inside my head so she can see how my mind works because I don't think I'll ever be able to get her to understand that!

FourRedheads · Feb 29, 2012, 10:35 PM

Yes!! I pretend T can see me all the time. Is that weird?

Chopin99 · Feb 29, 2012, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by FourRedheads

Yes!! I pretend T can see me all the time. Is that weird?

I can't say whether it's weird or not, as I'm pretty weird, but I do it too.

KazzaX · Mar 01, 2012, 04:30 AM

Yes sometimes I imagine that T is watching me (sort of through my eyes). I dunno why though.

crazylife · Mar 01, 2012, 04:48 AM

I had my T and 2 other professionals come in and watch me at work for a hour to help make a new dx and it was horrible, felt so self conscious.

SoupDragon · Mar 01, 2012, 05:15 AM

Yes - my T does follow me around all day and sometimes I am more aware of him being there than others and this affects the way I think and feel and behave (of course this is just in my head, but he is most definitely there).

shoez · Mar 01, 2012, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Chopin99

I can't say whether it's weird or not, as I'm pretty weird, but I do it too.

I do this too...almost all the time.

Mar 01, 2012, 07:40 AM

Interesting thought, but no I have never even thought this. Strange just thinking about it now makes me feek irritated at the thought, restricted even. I like telling her about myself but having her follow me around a definite no, BUT I would like to be her shadow!

Betty_Banana · Mar 01, 2012, 07:57 AM

I have actually discussed this with my T.

He said you can pay people to do that kind of thing, but it's very expensive. I didn't ask how much he would charge though.

Unrigged64072835 · Mar 01, 2012, 08:40 AM

I think my T would be extremely bored if he watched me all day. I have an office job and sit at a desk and computer most of the time, and it's tedious enough for me as it is. Plus I'm so quiet that my coworkers wouldn't even know I was there unless I sneezed or something.

He might have a little bit more entertainment when I'm at home--not much though.

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