[lostmyway21]

Okay I realized that yesterday during my session my T said please about a million times. I was in major shutdown, and he was trying to coax me out of it. I can't bare to hear him say please or pretty please. I feel so bad, so I guess he knows he will eventually always get me with it. It just made me wonder...does anyone else's T say please in session a lot? If so for any specific reasons?

[sconnie892]

I can't recall my T ever saying please to coax me out of something. She has other phrases she will use though. I could see how the constant please thing would become difficult to listen to. Can you talk to your t about this? Would you feel better if he used different words?

Just yesterday my T said "please" about something and we laughed about it because he doesn't say please very often. I can't remember what it was about though.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by sconnie892

I can't recall my T ever saying please to coax me out of something. She has other phrases she will use though. I could see how the constant please thing would become difficult to listen to. Can you talk to your t about this? Would you feel better if he used different words?

In all honesty it kind of works. I hate that he found it out. No one ever tried to gently get me to talk before. I can't resist his "pretty please's", they are too kind. Even if it takes him many attempts.

[sconnie892]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

In all honesty it kind of works. I hate that he found it out. No one ever tried to gently get me to talk before. I can't resist his "pretty please's", they are too kind. Even if it takes him many attempts.

Sounds like if it's working that's a good thing.
My T likes to use "Tell me what you are thinking right now" when I start as she says "looking really uncomfortable". I always tell her - even though I don't want to. I guess we all have our little phrases that get us no matter what.

Yes mine says please also.

[CantExplain]

I can't recall my T ever saying please. She's like my mother in that.

[pbutton]

I don't recall him ever saying please. He doesn't ever really try to coax or push me to do anything.

Originally Posted by pbutton

I don't recall him ever saying please. He doesn't ever really try to coax or push me to do anything.

That's my thinking. Most of the time he's all about me being responsible to make my own choices. No pushing or coaxing or begging.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by farmergirl

That's my thinking. Most of the time he's all about me being responsible to make my own choices. No pushing or coaxing or begging.

If he doesn't coax me to move forward then I won't make any progress because I will avoid anything hard all together. I like being pushed, I feel like I accomplished something after.

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

If he doesn't coax me to move forward then I won't make any progress because I will avoid anything hard all together. I like being pushed, I feel like I accomplished something after.

And that's the cool thing about therapy, a good therapist designs his approach especially for you.

[FourRedheads]

I don't recall my T ever saying "please." Her way of coaxing me to talk is asking me a bazillion questions. lol I think I might like "please" better.

[granite1]

i don't remember my T ever saying please either.she has tried to coax me to come out of my shell in various ways.bye asking me not to go in my shell to begin with.she seems to know when it is happening.she will say my name over loudly sometimes to accomplish this but as far as talking i think she knows that one is on me and will not ask me to talk.i think she knows that would turn into a power thing that i will win or if i am way to scared i just couldnt and she will just sit with me for the whole session if need be

[nannypat]

My T said "please" last session when he told me to please believe him when he says he has no problem with e-mails between sessions.( I always feel like I am using time I haven't paid for.)

No, he doesn't, but there's nothing wrong with your therapist saying that to you if it is helpful.

[skeksi]

My T always adds a little "please" if what he says sounds like an order--I think he's really careful not to sound like he's telling me what to do, he's asking me. So, like, "Tell me what's going on inside you....please."

I like it

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by skeksi

My T always adds a little "please" if what he says sounds like an order--I think he's really careful not to sound like he's telling me what to do, he's asking me. So, like, "Tell me what's going on inside you....please."

I like it

That sounds like my T. When I was having a hard time and started crying, he was like, "your struggling and I don't know why, PLEASE tell me what your feeling so I can help you. Please Lost, pretty please."

[learning1]

I don't think my t says please but your t sounds very sweet. I'm glad he's helping you feel what you need to get things out so well .

[Towanda]

Mine doesn't say please. When I drift, he will kind of tilt his head, look at me very kindly and say, "Where are you right now?" The smile always brings me back

[FourRedheads]

Originally Posted by Towanda

Mine doesn't say please. When I drift, he will kind of tilt his head, look at me very kindly and say, "Where are you right now?" The smile always brings me back

That sounds nice.

[lostmyway21]

Originally Posted by Towanda

Mine doesn't say please. When I drift, he will kind of tilt his head, look at me very kindly and say, "Where are you right now?" The smile always brings me back

Oh yes... My T's kind sensitive smile is definitly my therapy kryptonite. It's why I don't look at him.