I talked today about how I spend so much time trying to escape mourning something that happened that its creating problems. I then said its hard to grieve when there is no gravestone to go to.

T said immediately after I said that about how people of jewish faith place stones on gravestones each time they visit and perhaps I could do something with stones?

I think for me this is a solution to my pain of loss, the idea of doing something as simple as pick a special place and lay a stone on it each time I visit there as a way of putting some form of structure to my free falling grief.

[Perna]

Or carry a symbol of the good in what you are mourning? I have handkerchiefs that belonged to my great aunt, a little nothing, "worthless" costume jewelry pin my group therapist gave me that was her mother's (she gave everyone else in the group rubber s**t :-) etc.

No a stone works for me.

[Asiablue]

For some reason this post brought tears to my eyes. I'm not sure if you're talking about there's no physical grave for a person but the idea of having a place to put my grief over past events is very poignant. And a lovely idea for closure. I like a physical representation of what has been lost.

Yes! ,

[growlycat]

I knew someone who would plant a daffodil or other bulb plant in the woods every year. At winter's end, the bulbs bloomed about the same time, all of that color!! But everyone mourns differently. I'm sorry for whatever loss you are grieving.

Growly I could visualise that as I read it.

[growlycat]

I saw only one phone pic and it was amazing

I bet! .