Home Menu

Menu


Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old Mar 25, 2012, 11:13 PM
rainbow8's Avatar
rainbow8 rainbow8 is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: US
Posts: 13,284
I knew it was going to happen tonight. Many of you may remember that I used to see my former T around town. I knew I was going to a function where I would see her and I thought "what if they put us at the same table? That would be cool; I would sit next to her". Well, they did, and I did! When she was my T, we never were at the same table.

It was fine. I felt very comfortable just talking to her. My friend, who knows my situation, told me afterward how pleased she was and we just looked "normal" together. It was a nice sort of closure. I didn't think of all she used to know about me, all of my secrets.

So, I am wondering. Am I only comfortable with her now that she's not my T any more? I assume that's the reason. I used to panic when I'd see her in public though I learned to act more or less normal with her.

I was also thinking that now, while I am in therapy with my T, I would be okay if she and I happened to be in the same circumstance. It won't happen though; my path does not cross my T's like with my former T. But if it did, I don't have that "she's a stranger feeling" with my T. She and have hugged, held hands, sat on the couch together, emailed, done meditation together, taken walks together. It's so different for me than it was with my other T. This T is there with me, and I like that. If she were somewhere with her H or kids, I'd probably stare at them, but if she were next to me at a table, I'd be okay.

I just wanted to write this out and share it, as an interesting observation.
Hugs from:
Sannah
Thanks for this!
childofyen, ColourBars, purplelephant, with or without you

advertisement
  #2  
Old Mar 26, 2012, 12:02 AM
KazzaX KazzaX is offline
Grand Member
 
Member Since: Mar 2011
Posts: 852
I guess when you arent their client anymore, you would sort of see them as a proper human being (ie just like you or me). I guess its more obvious when you arent their client, that who you knew before was just a facade. Sort of like how people go to their job and they have a totally different personality. I guess now you can see that therapy is just their job, its not who they really are.
Thanks for this!
rainbow8
  #3  
Old Mar 26, 2012, 12:44 AM
rainbow8's Avatar
rainbow8 rainbow8 is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: US
Posts: 13,284
KazzaX; I have to disagree with you. My former T was not so different in therapy as out of therapy. It's I who was different, not her. She's kind of a "this is who I am" person. She acted interested in me the same in and out of therapy. I'm the one who changed my attitude.
  #4  
Old Mar 26, 2012, 12:49 AM
faith1983 faith1983 is offline
Member
 
Member Since: Jan 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 136
oh gosh! I'm really not where you are in the process I guess... I don't have a former therapis yet (still with my first t for now) but I would choke on every bite if he was somewhere near me in a event (if we suppose that I didn't lose consciousness before the time we get to eat )
Thanks for this!
rainbow8, with or without you
Reply
Views: 416

attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:41 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.