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Apr 14, 2012, 08:56 AM
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I don't know if it is appropriate to ask T about plans for her practice and retirement. I have never been so afraid of losing a T before until now. One T's partners is retiring. They started their practice together and are the same age, which dawned on me she might be getting closer to it as well. She has said in the interim the office is just moving to a different suite and I know my T is still taking classes and seminars to improve skills, which indicates to me is not retiring immediately; however it just did not occur to me until now that she is ACTUALLY at retirement age.
She is the first T that calls me out on any B.S. and avoidance, stopping me in my tracks. I appreciate this T more than I can say. I would love to talk to her about it, but don't know if it is appropriate or should I just take things as they come?! What would you do?
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Apr 14, 2012, 09:13 AM
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Hard to ask questions that we fear the answer to. Yes it is absolutely appropriate!
When I asked, I was assured that my T has no plans to retire (she could have already) and does have plans to continue being a therapist as long as possible. |
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Apr 14, 2012, 09:16 AM
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My T told me a year and a half before she planned to retire. I was working primarily to pay her :-) so I started planning my retirement too. The year and a half was plenty of time to work through to our termination, it actually helped to have a date to work toward as I quit trying to convince myself I had all the time in the world with her. My T was around 70 when she retired.
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Apr 14, 2012, 11:53 AM
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It's absolutely appropriate to ask her. It's something you're thinking about, so it's relevant to your therapy.
I asked T what his future plans were (I started seeing him after my previous T moved to another state), because I really didn't want to develop a close relationship with him if he was just going to move or retire. He assured me that he had no plans to leave his practice for any reason. His kids aren't in college yet, so I figure he means that at least until he finishes getting them through! |
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Apr 14, 2012, 12:20 PM
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I asked mine about her retirement. She has a few years to go. I think it is entirely appropriate to ask.
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Apr 14, 2012, 01:43 PM
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yes, i have asked and do continue to ask every year. i know how old he is; so i asked him point blank.. he just put up a new web site and got new carpet and a new couch for his office, so i think i have a sometime left... i am guessing a few more years.
YES, ASK.... it is okay to do so!!!! |
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Apr 14, 2012, 01:45 PM
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If it bothers you, by all means ask!
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Apr 14, 2012, 01:51 PM
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a s k .
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never mind... |
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Apr 14, 2012, 04:49 PM
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I told my T about my fear that she might retire.
But I didn't ask about her plans so she didn't tell me!
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Apr 15, 2012, 10:52 PM
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Please ask, it's totally appropriate especially now when it's effecting you. This way you can work through whatever the answer is together instead of you worrying about what might be years away on your own
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