Best thing your T has ever said to you?

In my last session, she asked if the reason I was pushing her away was because I wanted her to give up on me. I said no, that I just needed to be sure that no matter what, she WASN'T going to give up on me, and she said, "There's nothing you could ever do to make me give up on you. You're stuck with me. "

I'm happy to be stuck with her.

Not sure if I 100% believe it but in response to be being unsure about therapy

"You have to be the one that wants this. I can't want it more for you than you do. And I do want it for you"

My favorite T told me, " whatever feelings come up are ok . " he would also just look at me and say, "hi, " and smile when i was having a hard time. It just helped tons. Something that simple. I don't know why. :-)

my t does that too!

I had sent T an email. not expecting a response as per our terms, but it was full of pain and distress and I needed to get it out on paper and somewhere safe. T called to check on me, and set up an ASAP apt. As soon as I sat down, T said "I know you sounded ok, but I wanted to pit my eyes on you.."

Early in therapy T kept asking if the relationship was working for me, and whether I would promise to bring it up if something went awry. My "yeah" must have been unconvincing.. and T finally said "I need to be able to trust that you will tell me if something about our relationship isn`t working.. and if you`ll tell me.. I promise.. we will work it out together." god that was powerful for me.

T identified me as having attachment issues and was intent on me feeling attached to the therapeutic relationship. I couldn`t relate to the idea at all. Then one day I said something off the cuff and T resomded "Crescent Moon.. that sounds like attachment to me :-)" I was mortified and exquisitely uncomfortable, but asked for an explanation. T broke it down for me.. why what I said sounded like I was attached. It was right on target.. and from that point on a healthy attachment developed.

My T is far from perfect. Having been encouraged to bring up any issues I had, I did that from time to time. I brought up something that had pained me, and T, without hesitation, looked me kindly in the eye and said "I`m sorry."

Wow. I can very much understand that that was a powerful experience. That sounds like a very good T. I'm glad

Yesterday T said to me "Please listen to me and what I tell you. *Look at our history, I have always been honest with you from day one." ...he finally got through my negative thoughts.

she has said lots of nice/comforting things...some i probably dont even remember but aside from things she's said I think just being "her" and being a steady, calm, confident female figure has been a big deal. i adore her and am so thankful for her.

The more I read on here about the painful experiences people have due to their therapists beibg so poorly attuned to them, the more grateful I feel that I have a therapist who is so very attuned. Not perfectly, mind you... but there has never been a time that my therapist dropped the ball that wasn`t then followed up by genuine and heart-felt efforts to repair. Although my T hasn`t hesitated to make me aware of my own contributions.. I have Never been blamed. Never.

I like it when my T jokes with me. It makes me feel like it's a "real" relationship, and not just him trying to "fix" me.

He said something really funny the other day, it will be mostly lost in text, but here goes anyway.

He was asking me how I felt over the past week, and I told him the nights had been really bad. He said, bad how? And I said, I just do really badly at night. And he said, what exactly do you feel? And I said, "I feel Bad. Very bad." And without missing a beat he says, "Vague! You're being very vague!" It was in the same rhythm and speech pattern I used, too. We had a good laugh together.

Those are the times I feel really connected to him, that I think about over the week and smile about.

"She [me] has a special place in my heart."
"I'm doing it out of love."/ "I say that in love and jest."

And then some witty conversations as well

(after I had sent her a note in the mail between sessions, since I don't have the email option, and she mentioned it in session and I stated that I thought I shouldn't have done that) she said "why? you were obviously feeling it, there's nothing wrong with that."

She said, "I pray for you; I want you to know that." I need it!!!

After a session of getting nowhere and my Therapist asking me to ask my inner self about my childhood my inner self said "Off Limits!" so I said that and he replied.

"Well it's YOUR mind nothing should be off limits"

"Do you think I say that to everyone? I don't."

"You're so brave."

"I don't see you as needy, but you get to be that here. You get to be needy in this room."

"Do you realize how much more fu cked up you could be?"

"You will not be alone when you do this. I will be with you."

"It's like your mother's from another planet."

"Fu ck, you're right. I blew it. I'm so sorry."

"I'm not afraid of being close with you."

"I have so much hope for you."

"I'm so glad we met and get to work together. I think this partnership was meant to be."

"You deserve so much more than you think you do."

She also rolls forward in her chair and holds my hand when I'm really crying in pain which means more than almost anything she could say.

Yeah, she's a pretty cool T. I think I'm lucky.

"I care about you"

those words saved my life..after just the first time T said them to me.

it sounds like you have the best T ever! Hold onto that one!

What you are feeling is only temporary.

"you know after all these years, I would never intentionally hurt you"

So I was having trouble remembering connection with T tonight, so I picked out all the best things T has ever emailed me, and put them in this post do I can always refer to them. Sorry if it's a bit long, it was hard to decide

"I'm not ditching you, I'm making sure you are cared for. I would only add more options not ditch you."

"No worries, I will stick with you."

"Your a good person and capable of great things, we just need to help you get through the horrible past events."

"I just want you to know you are important to me."

"I will do my best to bring the stuff we need to talk about out ok?"

"You are not distant with me. I understand your feelings."

"I think your worth it."

"You never waste my time."

"Your not bothering me, this is what I do, and although your mind changes how you feel due to your issues, you must know that I remain the same."

"I believe in you."

"I'm not mad, I don't get mad, I am your therapist. I just am trying to push you forward. I am doing this because I care about you."

"My relationship has not changed since day one and will not change as I always stated to you, that's a promise."

"You have gotten so far with everything no need to stop now, your almost there, I can see it. "

"Your not alone."

"No one can hurt our relationship, I promise that."

"I will be here to help you through it."

Best things from yesterday:

"I'm in this as deep as you are!"

"I'm proud of you."

Love reading the posts on here, nothing like a great therapist!!!!!

"I'm not going anywhere".
"I consider you my friend who happens to be my patient".

"If you killed yourself, I would be devastated." It was very touching then and I say it to myself when I feel suicidal urges now, which helps steer me away from them.

"Thank you for sharing that with me. I know that was difficult for you."

"It won't always be easy." - In reference to working through my past. It reminded me that t is honest.

"I care about you."

"I love you"

Pam