Best thing your T has ever said to you?

While discussing my attachment to her today and my feelings about moving away, she said this:
“If you want to know that I care about you, I care about you. If you want to know that you’re important to me, you’re important to me. I want you to know that I want only for the best, most kind and helpful people to cross your path and stay with you. I want you to like yourself and believe that you’re deserving.”
She went on to say that we don’t have to talk to have a connection. Wherever I go, the relationship will be with me. She’ll be with me and a part of me. There was more to it than that though. It meant so much to me for her to share that with me.

She's also said (in response to a crying voice message from me abt how I didn't deserve to eat or to take my head out from under the covers when it got hot, and that I was ugly/worthless/hopeless/pathetic/etc.), that she hoped I could see "that those things are not true. They are not true at all."

Also, after a situation with her that left me feeling unimportant to her and whatnot, she said that "You are my priority." In that message to me, she said 'priority' a good 4 or 5 times. I still have the vm saved and listen to it when I need some reassurance.

She says a lot that is meaningful to me, but those are the ones that stand out.

Just today:

While booking my next session: "I wish I could see you tomorrow." (We book every two weeks.)

"I have loving feelings for you."
When discussing our relationship and how he helps me but I don't do anything for him, he said, "It's more reciprocal than you think."
When I was talking about how disconcerting it is to be so hung up on him while thinking that he doesn't really feel anything about me, I said I felt like I was out in left field having these feelings all by myself (he kept using sports analogies that day for some reason), he said, "You are not all by yourself. It's not as if I don't have feelings for you."

Writing these today to remind myself that even though things are not going well in this therapeutic relationship right now, in general, it's a good relationship and I should not walk away.

Maybe not the best but the most current best - "You're the only one of my clients who I allow to text me."

T is far away (again) right now and we were chatting on skype last night-- she told us, "We are both very lucky to still be able to be part of each other's lives."

He's a bit vague and verbose, isn't he! Why not:

1. I love you.
2. Me too.
3. I'm here for you.

I know! The other biggie from him was, "I think you're the opposite of gross."
I find myself wanting to yell at him, "Just SAY it!" Don't leave me to guess what loving feelings exactly are or what you mean by the opposite of gross.

Still really hating therapy.

The marriage counselor told me today that I am "fierce" and he finds that seductive. Ugh. What the he'll is wrong with me that a gay man calls me seductive an the straight guy I want to find me attractive doesn't.

My T used to say this exact phrase and it was so damn frustrating! She told me that she only really said "I love you" to her husband and mom regularly and occasionally to friends and her stepdaughter. Then one day she took me by surprise by saying "I love you." Since this time, she has said the loving feelings thing a couple of times and I've looked at her a little funny... She doesn't say this anymore but has said "I love you" a couple more times. So, there is hope!

I'm paraphrasing this because I can't remember it word for word. Social anxiety has absolutely dogged me for most of my life, and she told me recently: "You have a great sense of humor and a great wit. And I think that voice speaks louder than your other voice." My "other" voice is my shy and self-defeating, ruled-by-fear-at-all-costs voice. That almost made me cry. I would rather be funny than anything else in the world.

I am not doing so hot right now—trying to pull myself out of a depression—but this thread was a reminder of something pleasant. thanks.

I like Pink Floyd and so does T. T told me: "You are not another brick in the wall". That was cool.

I like this thread.

I guess "I won't give up on you", "You're a gift to the little ones you are with", "hold my hand, you're not on your own" and when T gave me something to keep during a break. I'm lucky to have a T who puts up with so much from me, don't think I say thanks enough when I am running out the door

Not quite something she said, but when I was feeling really bad in session and the voices were being horrific the way she talked on the phone to the crisis team and kept on checking in with me while she was calling the hospital and stuff and said 'Are you still with me?' really got to me, I could see she cared and it meant a lot.

"wow, you are so screwed"

Sounds bad right? But I liked that he agreed that I was in a tough spot and didn't make light of it or try to normalize it.

Hi,
What a cool topic for discussion.
I've had several therapists who have said things that have stuck with me.
My psychiatrist said,"You're one of the most highly functioning people I know," at a time where I felt anything but functioning well!
My most recent school counselor intern said,"You're a good person." at the end of a session where I really said something to hurt her feelings.
The best comments have come from my voice movement therapist.
" Any sound is a good sound!" (refering to free expression of the voice.) Then she does this thing where she says the sentence again in this scratchy kind of way, what sounds almost like growling, known as "disruption" in the work, something I absolutely hate! Just to make me laugh.
"You are fabulous!" I feel so good when she says that.
"You don't have to be sorry."
" Everything you're feeling is ok."
The list goes on.
Always good to remember the good and funny things about our therapists!
Oh, I forgot one.
We were talking on the phone once and she said she wished she had a magic wand to make things all better.
I said,"I wish you had a magic wand."
She said,"Me too, just for the fun of it!"
It was just so funny!