Should I have said anything?

Awww, sweetie. I'm so sorry. This must feel so painful right now. You have such a great t, and it's always very clear how much he cares for you. I really hope he contacts you and that he is able to explain why he couldn't reply (like ecoglite said- he could have anything from a dead phone to a family emergency). It would be nice if he owned up to his mistakes with that phone regardless of his excuse, though.

Thinking of you.

He responded this morning said he just saw my message asking him to call me, and asked how I was. I just asked him if it mattered. He said yes it does. I haven't said anything else. I don't know what to say. I feel hurt.

Well, he's already got one thing right so far this morning: You do matter. You just do.

I finally said I wasn't feeling good. He said "Hang in there, I'm going no where as always ok?" I guess things are okay. Sometimes it feels like my bipolar is going to win this.

My T never answers the phone during our sessions. To me, that would be very unprofessional, not to mention a disruption of our time. You have a perfect right to mention it!

I agree.

Thanks. I'm anxious to see how seriously he takes this request in Monday. If he addresses it at all, or stays doing what he's been doing.

So I had my session today. I was to scared to bring this up. BUT he didn't look at his phone once, in fact I didn't even see it out...which is new. I wonder if it was a coincidence or he took what I said seriously? Hm I guess we will see next session.

My T's phone buzzed today. My first thought was this thread!! LOL This was a first. He texted back a super fast response while telling me he had to tell his daughter he was picking her up tonight. I thought it was kind of entertaining. He did apologize.

The freakiest part was that he set the phone back down and started up RIGHT WHERE WE HAD LEFT OFF. I was all "WTH are you talking about now? Oh, yeah, my LIFE. NOW I remember."

I think he took what you said to heart. Good job!!!!

My T answered his cell once during a session. He apologized, but told me that phone was only for emergencies. He came back into the room about 10 seconds later and said it was his daughter and not an emergency. I got the feeling that the kid was going to be in big trouble when he got home.

lostmyway, I read your thread when I was out of town and was wishing I had my computer to really reply. [my tiny phone keyboard is too hard to use, or maybe I'm really phone-incompetent, not sure which it was.] Anyway, I thought you were SO BRAVE! I was amazed at you! And amazed at the progress you have made in just the short time I have known you on this board. Good for you! And I'm so glad that your T took you seriously and treated your feelings with respect.

Thanks for your kind words. T insists I've made progress too, I just insist he's got me confused with another client.

The ol DAUGHTER story. Freud must be rolling over in his grave every time a T uses that his excuse! My prev T/pdoc (love/hate r/s) once said, "oh, my daughter wants to know where the kitty litter is." Riiiight. Like his daughter wouldn't know that? Fiancée. That's one test of whether your session is therapeutic or not - they don't usually answer the phone during the truly therapeutic parts, because they are truly engaged with YOU.

My T's phone sits on his desk and buzzes frequently. He always picks it up to look at a text or to see who it is. Drives me nuts.

Thats exactly what was happening with me. I HAD to say something, I wanted to grab it and throw it at him several times. Luckily, he hasn't touched it since my email.