[bounceback]

I saw my therapist on Tuesday. I managed to tell her that I saw her with a guy. She was perfectly fine with me telling her. We talked about relationships a lot. The session turned out to be productive. The only thing is I feel envious of her because she is able to have relationships and it is something I struggle with. Sometimes I feel there is something wrong with me.

[carla.cdt]

did you tell her you felt envious? and that envious feeling means to you that there is something wrong with you... and by the way, envy someone and having something wrong with us are not related... envy is an emotion and all emotion just are... nothing wrong with them... it is our thoughts about them that cause us trouble sometime... lots of the time for me
discuss it further with your therapist...

[pbutton]

I hope you are able to further discuss this with your therapist.

[bounceback]

I did talk to my therapist about feeling envious of her, but it didn't fix anything. It was a good appointment other than that though. I can't really explain how I feel, just sort of lonely I guess.

[carla.cdt]

for me, when i have strong emotion(anger, envy, sadness, fear, ...) toward therapist, talking about it helps a lot, but it doesn't fix it. Time makes it better.
So the talk is important, but it takes me time to process what we talked about and to feel what I need to feel. I fiigured out i can't stop a feeling, more i try, worse it gets...
Some other time, the strong emotion is just replace with an other strong one, so i would end up in a no better place, just a different one that suck as much....

[Perna]

When I was in my late 20's and having trouble not being able to make relationships, I thought about that and realized that my body worked like it was supposed to so the rest had to be head, heart, education and experience. We can't just suddenly be good at relationships, especially with no experience. It's not that we're bad at social things, we haven't practiced them! We look around and see other people seeming to do them well but we don't really know what we're looking at because we don't have enough experience to imagine what could be right or wrong.

I still remember when I was 15 and saw my best friend go by driving a car, the driver's ed car full of other students and the teacher. Seeing her at the wheel, I felt like I was so young and backwards. It wasn't like that!