So I was wondering does anyone else feel guilty for taking up so much of T's personal time with emails? I mean T and I email a bunch several times a day. Sometimes using it as a messenger, yet other times like full on conversations...bordering sessions. I felt guilty about this and brought it up to T, as I told him I always want a response, i felt like i should pay him for that time. I mean I would expect to be paid for working on my free time, not all the time or within reason...mind you. But latley I have been pushing it with my whole relationship debacle. So yesterday he made a few suggestions, 1. unlimited email all week, with answers = 1 session and then 1 in person weekly OR 2 in person with limited email with answers throughout the week. I also will be seeing him once a week for Marriage counseling.

[WePow]

I believe it is important to the therapy relationship to have these types of understandings. It is great that you were able to make your needs known and have your T able to provide options which allow the relationship to remain balanced.

[Freefall1974]

I also think it is great that you offered to compensate T for his time. It is a sign of respect and good boundaries ( as far as I am concerned). I don't email my T. I have been charged for some phone calls which I was not really happy about, mainly because I felt I was being talked AT and not talked TO.

Last night pbutton started a thread about emailing T. Someone made a comment that they had emailed their T 75 times since Feb. I was hoping someone would start a new thread asking how many times have you emailed your T since____? I am not a thread starter, I am a follower. But to me it is always helpful to read what other people are doing.

Originally Posted by Freefall1974

Last night pbutton started a thread about emailing T. Someone made a comment that they had emailed their T 75 times since Feb. I was hoping someone would start a new thread asking how many times have you emailed your T since____? I am not a thread starter, I am a follower. But to me it is always helpful to read what other people are doing.

Thank you so much for your comments, I appreciate that so much. Perhaps you could attempt starting a thread. I think that your example is an excellent idea? I'll start counting and be the first to respond. Or I can start it on your behalf if you like.

[stopdog]

I think that compensating the therapist for the time if you are doing a lot of emailing or calling can help mostly to keep the client's guilt down and to keep it from being a favor from the therapist. I don't think therapist favors often end well for clients.

[Freefall1974]

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Thank you so much for your comments, I appreciate that so much. Perhaps you could attempt starting a thread. I think that your example is an excellent idea? I'll start counting and be the first to respond. Or I can start it on your behalf if you like.

pbutton started one,but thank you so much for the offer. When you finish counting you can post your number

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Freefall1974

I am not a thread starter, I am a follower.

I wonder why? There is nothing to stop you starting a thread. Why don't you try it and see how it feels?