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#1
May 25, 2012, 08:43 AM
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My T always picks up on the things with have the same, take last session, we were sorting out my next session and we both had our pens out, when she goes
Oh, look we have the same pen, and starts chuckling to herself about it. Then one session she forgot a clock so we used my phone to keep an eye on the time, and again she goes, oh we have the same phone, and starts chuckling to herself. Does your T do this is, I just find it strange that she mentions it. |
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May 25, 2012, 08:46 AM
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Um me and T have the same phone, and we talk about apps and stuff sometimes, but no he doesn't do that. Maybe she's just trying to be funny?
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May 25, 2012, 08:54 AM
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Every so often the therapist tries to say we have something in common. I think it may be an attempt to bond.
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May 25, 2012, 10:57 AM
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I agree with stopdog. T's seem to be knowledgeable about how to build rapport with their clients, and from reading these forums it looks like there are lots of different ways to do that. My T has done something similar to the OP's, but I can't remember what it was.
I think it's a positive thing as long as it seems and feels sincere. |
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May 25, 2012, 11:17 AM
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I'm sorry but I would hate it if my T tried to find things we have in common. Why would I want anyone to find something in my messed up life that we share?
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May 25, 2012, 01:55 PM
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May 25, 2012, 01:57 PM
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No never happened.
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#8
May 25, 2012, 02:05 PM
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Me and T share many things in common. At the same time though, we are totally differnt people and totally different personalities. Any 2 people can find things they have in common if you dig a little bit. I do think that the T saying that we have things in common is for a reason-to provoke transference, to build rapport, to help connect, the list goes on... Mine revealed to me many things including: same church denomination, our sisters have same name, like to drive SUV's, both used to work at summer camps, like to mentor, like to volunteer, etc
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May 25, 2012, 02:15 PM
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My T commented once on us having the same sweater. I think it was just a spontaneous, "Oh, look at that" kind of moment. It didn't really register as more than an offhand comment to me at the time.
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May 25, 2012, 07:21 PM
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That's never happened to me.
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May 25, 2012, 10:28 PM
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 My T and I both are diabetic. Sure, it's good to talk about things/ medical around that. Sometimes, he uses that as a 'possible' reason for my emotions. I wish that we did not have 'diabetes' in common....
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