as of 12:30 am this morning we officially took back some of our power. cores daughter and her gf had been staying with us for close to 3 weeks and it was a tense,volatile situation. last night became the last straw. she started out small by being nasty when we wouldnt let her use our phone to play games on because its not holding a charge and needs to be checked out. it then escalated into passive-agressive remarks-and for the first time EVER we decided to NOT engage in her verbal attacks and kept silent,letting her go on. the verbal abuse kept ratcheting up and up and still we kept quiet-which,btw was hard as hell!!!-determined to not give in. but the final event was when she took our kitten and flung him on the bed! then we opened our mouth! we are sure you can only imagine how that went. we told her calmly to pack up her and her gf ***** and find someone else to live with. IMMEDIATELY. they then proceeded to go outside and spend 45 minutes smoking. eventually they got most of their stuff together and then cores daughter said they would be back tomorrow for the rest of their stuff. NO! get it all out tonight we wont be here tomorrow. it turned increasingly uglier and uglier,with us finally having to call the night manager to remove her from our room since she refused to leave. she then started accusing us of making up everything that had happened to us,right down to being DID. amazingly we just stood there,shook our heads and laughed. she ended up stealing quite a few of our personal items but we let it go because she would have called the cops if we tried to take it back. currently her and her gf are both on felony probation and in VOP. we briefly entertained the thought of reporting them to their PO but decided not to stoop to that level. they will trip themselves up sooner or later. but taking back some of our power-PRICELESS!!! no more will we be abused or attacked by cores nasty daughter. icing on the cake?-by monday we are moving to a new place in another county where cores husband works,changing our phone number and dumping a huge amount of stress! today we pat ourselves on the back thanks for reading if you did♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

Hey Trinity...I'm sorry that you have some rough experiences but I wanted to congratulate you on setting boundaries and keeping them !!!

thank you RTS-it was hard but so worth it!!!

[critterlady]

Trinity, I'm sorry you had to do that, but it's awesome that you did! I hope the move does let you put that stress behind you.

[unaluna]

you are my hero and my inspiration. you go girl.

[Sannah]

Woo Hoo! You go girl!

[pbutton]

Awesome

[stopdog]

Good to hear.

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

It DOES sound powerful. Probably exactly what power is supposed to be: to protect yourself (and others if necessary) without annihilating the person(s) who need to be told to stop.

Originally Posted by ListenMoreTalkLess

It DOES sound powerful. Probably exactly what power is supposed to be: to protect yourself (and others if necessary) without annihilating the person(s) who need to be told to stop.

yes thats it exactly! its something we learned from years of co-dependency groups and used to think we could never do it because our temper is so short but determination won out this time. the feeling is incredible. we want to ride it as long as possible because we know the stress of moving is coming up later today. thank so much for all the encouragement♥♥♥

If she has a key, get the locks changed. Otherwise you are going to have problems. Good job standing up for your own health and safety. Proud of you.

[mixedup_emotions]

WONDERFUL!!! Such a great example of good self care. You knew what was causing unhealthy stress in your life and you took action. SO awesome!!

Originally Posted by farmergirl

If she has a key, get the locks changed. Otherwise you are going to have problems. Good job standing up for your own health and safety. Proud of you.

nope she has no keys still cant believe we did this!

[SpiritRunner]

I am proud of you too for staying in control, acting with right power and setting/enforcing boundaries! You did awesome.

This was heartwarming and inspirational to read--how much you stood your ground and took care of yourself. Way to go!

I'm glad you stood your ground. I'm sorry you get treated like that.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by TrinityDancer

...core's daughter...

I find this fascinating and scary. None of your alters acknowledges your daughter?

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I find this fascinating and scary. None of your alters acknowledges your daughter?

yes we do acknowledge her but the one who gave birth to her has "disappeared" and so we refer to her as cores daughter

[googley]

Good for you TD!!!!!!!!!! I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself.

[Onward2wards]

Way to go, (((( Trinity )))) ! It was very empowering to read that, thanks for sharing.

Originally Posted by Onward2wards

Way to go, (((( Trinity )))) ! It was very empowering to read that, thanks for sharing.

and thank you for helping us stay sane while it was going on♥♥♥

[delicatefade26]

That's great to hear Trinity!! thanks for sharing : )

VERY proud of you trinity

[rainbow_rose]

the cheerleaders worked! ... but seriously - this is awesome!! I'm so glad to hear this!!