sorry we have not been around much lately to give support as much as we would like to but w are having terrible trouble trying to regulate ourselves mentally. we are still semi-shutdown but sometimes our moods are swinging wildly and seem to be out of control. we have emailed our counselor and have been waiting 3 days to hear back and and are starting to get a bit desperate cores son is out of school and is with us nonstop all day and we havent found any free places to send him for summr during the day and we dont know the city well enough to go anywhere ugh sorry for the stupid rambly whining just needed a place to vent and try to get it out of us if you were able to follow this mumbo jumbo thank you for reading♥

[SpiritRunner]

trinity, not stupid rambling! I hope you can find some places for core's son to go, things to do ... are there libraries, parks, museums, etc you could take him to or classes through a local YMCA or something? couldn't core's husband help find something?

I'm not sure where you are living, but hit the internet for information about things to do in your area. Most cities have a website with that kind of information. Sounds like you and your son need to get out of the house and do a bit of exploring together.

Trinity, have you tried Craigslist.org? Depending on your area you might be able to find some free events and other sources of amusement for Cores son to enjoy. Even volunteer work for younger people. Perhaps that will help keep him busy for awhile.

thanks for the replies. we will look online for the places you suggested and hopefully find something. just not feeling very good right now

could really use some support,sad that our post got shoved to the middle of the 2nd page. sorry we dont always write deep fascinating things all the time

Oh, (((TD))), I'm sorry you feel this way.

I'm not too knowledgeable about how to find things to do in a US city, but I bet a local library could be one starting point. Find some books about the area and go exploring. That way you as well as he would get to know the city better.

Thinking of you, even if I'm not always good at replying.

TD, I'm not quite sure what to say other than I'm thinking of you. I know what you mean about sometimes not getting the responses that I want to some of my posts - it happens sometimes to all of us and doesn't indicate anything about you (I can say this but not always believe it myself...).

You're going through a lot of stuff and it is really hard. I can't remember where you are with either moving to once a week w/ your current counselor or trying to find one who can accommodate this need. Whichever the situation, I wish you luck and am always silently cheering you on (even when I don't post - don't have good internet access for the next 5 weeks while I'm out of town). Sending you lots of safe hugs.

thanks apteryx. just seems unless we write deep stuff most of our posts go unnoticed. maybe its the frame of mind we are in but we just arent feeling like we belong here anymore.

[WikidPissah]

sorry TD. I am never on here in the evenings. Too much family stuff to do.

I like what Chris said about going out and exploring with your son. Maybe catch a movie or something to distract yourself? Or find a nearby park to enjoy the sunshine a bit?

I think distracting is probably your best bet with these big intervals between speaking with your T. Have you gotten settled in yet? Decorated your new place? I know those things are really hard when your depressed.

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

sorry TD. I am never on here in the evenings. Too much family stuff to do.

I like what Chris said about going out and exploring with your son. Maybe catch a movie or something to distract yourself? Or find a nearby park to enjoy the sunshine a bit?

I think distracting is probably your best bet with these big intervals between speaking with your T. Have you gotten settled in yet? Decorated your new place? I know those things are really hard when your depressed.

we dont have a car-dont drive anyway-but are going to explore the bus system here and see what it can possibly bring us. we do go out daily to the duck pond and feed the ducks,we go swimming so its not all inside but maybe the depression is adding to the terrible anxiety? hes a really good kid who just gets bored easily at 8yo. this weekend we are going to buy a few items to make our room look like home that should help

My uneducated guess is that stress is feeding depression and depression is feeding anxiety for you.

Have you found some stuff for him to do yet? I'm sorry you're feeling badly.

[Chopin99]

I hate you are feeling the way you feel right now. I'm here for support. I'm not in the best place myself, and I don't have advice right now, but I'm here and I care.

[lostin08]

TD, I am not clear is this your bio son or step? If step have his mom or who ever by him a viedo game system and you won't see him for days....He He.

lostin08 he is a biological son just needs to find something hes interested in,thank you for the suggestion♥♥♥

[lostin08]

TD What about a boys/girls club? Any in your area? He can be there all day with other kids.

hmmm.. I don't have any ideas either hon but I wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and sending you safe hugs. maybe tomorrow will be better. Does your son like going to the duck pond?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by TrinityDancer

we are going to explore the bus system here and see what it can possibly bring us.

That'll be neat. I am always thrilled when I take a different route for some reason and promise myself to do it more often, but then I fall back into the same old rut. maybe this summer i'll explore like the other parks in town. we have city band concerts and stuff like that. thanks for the reminder.

[WikidPissah]

Originally Posted by hankster

That'll be neat. I am always thrilled when I take a different route for some reason and promise myself to do it more often, but then I fall back into the same old rut. maybe this summer i'll explore like the other parks in town. we have city band concerts and stuff like that. thanks for the reminder.

Love your new pic Hankster....sorry to break the news to you but...you ain't annoying.

thanks for all the great suggestions everyone we now have a list of things/places we are going to research but will do it a bit more in-depth this weekend. we had a very bad day today,ended up losing hours of time and the end result wasnt too pretty so feeling very discouraged and down right now,we are sorry

[Sannah]

Trinity, you have just moved and this is a stressful thing. This is probably what is feeding your anxiety? Time to adjust will help with this.

we think maybe we have an idea where the anxiety is coming from-moving definitely is adding to it but its also a bunch of other stuff going on. its probably really stupid trivial stuff so not even worth mentioning♥

[Sannah]

I doubt that any of it is stupid or trivial. It could help to talk about it here.

[SpiritRunner]

Sannah is right - if it's hurting/affecting you in some way, it's not trivial. It's not stupid! I'm glad you do have an idea where some of the anxiety is coming from though, that can help you be able to deal with it without losing more time.
Just remember you're cared about and can share things here.