[jenluv]

I never experienced these ebbs and flows with my previous therapist many years ago, so although I assume they are "normal" I'm not sure what to do about them or how to feel about them.

T and I are kind stuck. We keep going around in circles, revisiting the same stuff, with only the occasional insight.

I will be the first to admit that I like to go, go, go and that waiting for fate/God/whatever to bring things to light isn't my strong suit. But even beyond that impatience, I am feeling stuck.

I asked T if my love/hate relationship with my ED was masking whatever-it-is that we are stuck on. He said no.

For those of you who have been in my shoes, how did you eventually get unstuck? How long did the stuck-ness last? Is there anything I can do (or not do) to help me get unstuck?

Any and all advice and comments are welcome.

I really like this blogger, and this post might be helpful to you: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...e-your-therapy

In my own experience, I talked to my therapist about it, and I knew WHAT I was stuck on, and we kept talking around it for several months until I finally got it out this week.

Here's another article by the same blogger: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...y-constipation

we totally get being stuck,we think we own the movie rights to that!

[BashfulBear]

I had that with ex-T a fair few times.. one session was particularly painful and we sat in silence and she just watched me squirm and hurt for ages - eventually stating that she could see how hard it was for me - without ever throwing me a lifeline.

It's hard, I know!

I don't have any advice right now, but I'll sleep on it! In the meantime, I like MKAC's links (if you're reading, thanks for sharing those)!

[sconnie892]

I am in that stuck place right now too. I am thinking of resorting the the "rip off the band-aid" technique and just write out all the stuff I've been avoiding and reading it off. It's going to be horrible, but I am not sure if anything else is going to work for me at this point.

[stopdog]

Well, I usually take a few weeks away and/or try a different therapist. I always go back to that one I see, but I find the break and new therapist can give jump.