T lives very close too the Olympic stadium. She mentioned a while back that she has a letter about parking restrictions during the Games and she'll show me it.

Well in my head I'm thinking of course it's my problem around how I get there and parking during the games. Told hubby there might be a problem me getting too T by car and how I hate public transport, don't even know the bus routes round here never use them. But getting too T requires underground and theme top train.

In my thoughts were, oh well just have too not go during games and also the Hurt that T is happy too just wash her hands of the problem that this is just another reminder of the relationship and what it is and what it's not, all the time I'm trying to rationise the situation.

Today I gO back after the break and T says "oh I'm going too need your car registration number so I can register it for parking here during the games". Omg you can imagine I felt all loved again lol. I said too T I was wondering how I was going too deal with the Olympic restrictions and even thought about just not coming. T replied "oh we don't want that too happen" she then asked whether I think the roads will be jammed or not? I said my thinking is people will have heard horror stories about the traffic and getting around during the Games that they'll stay home. I added, as long as I know I can park I'll get here.

Ok I'm all T loved up again sorry 😍

[noodlzzz]

Aww that's great to hear, I'm really pleased for you

Being a Londoner myself, I'm getting rather anxious about how friggin crazy the tubes are going to be this summer.

[unaluna]

We have a similar thing, it's just the Art Fair, not exactly the Olympics! but every summer for a week, half the downtown streets are closed and a lot of the close-in parking is taken over by the artists. T always worries about me as his office is right in the middle of it all, but I just take my bus as usual. Your public trans route sounds a lot more complicated than mine, but it might be better than getting stuck in traffic? Have you considered taking a dry run? I love my bus.

[WikidPissah]

so glad your T figured it out for you. awesome.

[elliemay]

I'm glad that this all worked out for you in your head.

I've been through similar situations with my therapist, and life in general, but with hurricanes.

BUT these gross interruptions of SOP certainly occur and have to be dealt with.

It's not like your therapist can do anything about the Olympics for heaven's sake. They are just as much a force as a natural disaster really.

Presidential visits (Obama will just NOT stay out of our state) are also an issue. My therapist had to get security clearance just to come to work for heaven's sake. He declined and opted to stay home. Can't blame him.

Now, snowstorms - that's quite a different story here in the Southern US. Practically apocalyptic.

Elliemae, I've noticed you seem to get a bit wag fingerish when peoPle post abOut nice things their T'S do. For heaven sake its ok to enjoy a kindness

[elliemay]

Originally Posted by earthmamma

Elliemae, I've noticed you seem to get a bit wag fingerish when peoPle post abOut nice things their T'S do. For heaven sake its ok to enjoy a kindness

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[SallyBrown]

Originally Posted by elliemay

I'm glad that this all worked out for you in your head.

I've been through similar situations with my therapist, and life in general, but with hurricanes.

BUT these gross interruptions of SOP certainly occur and have to be dealt with.

It's not like your therapist can do anything about the Olympics for heaven's sake. They are just as much a force as a natural disaster really.

Presidential visits (Obama will just NOT stay out of our state) are also an issue. My therapist had to get security clearance just to come to work for heaven's sake. He declined and opted to stay home. Can't blame him.

Now, snowstorms - that's quite a different story here in the Southern US. Practically apocalyptic.

Unless I'm mistaken, I think the whole point was this this was all in her head? I don't see anything about wanting T to stop the Olympics to keep the sessions going.

I know I can definitely relate to being intellectually aware that something that T has no control over has caused us to have to miss sessions, yet at the same time feeling the part of me that worries that T doesn't care about missing the session, whereas I care a LOT, getting poked at. It's awesome when there's a concrete reminder that that fear is irrational

[elliemay]

I guess I'll say that the intent of my post was to illustrate that there have been times in my therapy when such concessions from a therapist have not been so forthcoming (hurricanes, snow storms, presidential visits).

A simply inquiry for clarification of intent or wording would have been great, and outright welcomed. "Finger wagging" ?? I read that as just an insult to me. Was that the case? I'm thinking not. Certainly hoping not. Don't we all deserve the benefit of the doubt?

Now, here is sit, instead of the desire to apologize for the misunderstanding, I feel on the defensive and hurt. Does that really help or support either of us?

Misinterpretations happen but do they require blanket generalization? I think they provide opportunites for discussion and clarification. As a last resort, the ignore option is there for a reason.

Nonetheless, I'm happy for the OP. Sincerely glad her therapist anticipated and cut this Olympic hassle off before it became an issue. I have not been so lucky.

I'm open to kindness, for sure and certainly not impervious to hurt either.

[Perna]

That's really neat your T came through in that way, although I end up thinking I'm an idiot for coming up with my "solution" not even imagining there could be another

Perhaps your post hurt me with the"for heavens sake" remarks. Ellie I think you are acting something out here. I hope you find the comfort you are seeking we all seek that. Perhaps of you offer comfort it will come back too you.

My post was about T bring able too secure parking for me as I know councils operate like that and not too stop the world spinning. Perhaps that is your desire you were projecting on to me. I wish you well bye

[elliemay]

Do you know what the first thing that went through my head when I read your post?

"With all we have to deal with, here come the Olympics for the Londoners. It's not fair".

I am sorry about the "for heaven's sake" comments and thank you for pointing it out. I can see how that could have landed the wrong way. I should have been more contemplative with my thoughts and posted that way. I will also admit that I was spewing on about the unfairness of these huge things and their very real impact on our lives.

I'm glad your therapist was able to help you through it. That is awesome.

Thank you Ellie, I struggle when I don't have a verybAl only words. I felt reprimanded as I read your words and felt an urgent need to defend myself. I had this visual in my head of a angry mother shouting "for heavens sake". There's another poster here whom I'm unsure of their tone too. From now on I shall simply say "Ellie are you telling me off" ))

[unaluna]

Yeah that's probably me? i've wondered at some of your responses to me sometimes. i've always held you in high regard - you're an earth mother! that's sacred to us old hippies! - but I guess that doesn't come across? I would still be prepared to travel both ways (maybe you would need a bus pass from T?), and just watch the telly or radio or internet for recommendations on the best way, once it's all happening.

Hankster, it's not you. I guess I would have tried public transport but this is all about feelings isn't it. I felt I didn't matter and T proved I did. It's not really about getting there. I felt stupid for thinking T valued me enought to warrant registering me at her address and she goes and shows me I am.

[unaluna]

D in reading comprehension and retention for me!

Whats retention mean?

[unaluna]

that I didn't remember what I read. I understood it (comprehension) but didn't retain the info I read about it being more about your feelings, not about how to travel there, when I made my original comment. so I get a D - i'm easier on myself than other people!

((((Hankster)))) Don't be so hard on yourself. At least a D+ (@,@)

[unaluna]

LOL you know I never even got a C until graduate school, and those would not count towards your degree, so it was like I got my first C D and F all at the same time!