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Jun 12, 2012, 10:49 PM
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Hi guys...so sorry ive been MIA
 Ive missed it here. Still seeing T 2x wk and Pdoc. Still no improvment :/Ive been thru a LOT the past month or two. I was hospitilazed in the psych ward 3 times! (i know...) and started a few ECT treatments then quit. Now im back to seeing T 2x week but all i can talk about is my depression and i swear he looks like hes gonna fall asleep and fall out of his chair any second ... He says im very angry/have anger issues, so i asked how can i work on to not be so angry, resolve it, etc. He just said you have to have a 'it is what it is attitude". Really? Is it just me or is that wayyy over simplistic. Im not sure hes even the one for me but im too blahhh or depressed to even look for another one. Im just hoping it gets better i guess... anyways, good to be back  ive missed it here!
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Jun 12, 2012, 10:49 PM
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Great to see you! I've been wondering how you're doing
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Jun 13, 2012, 04:19 PM
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I missed seeing your posts. glad you are back.
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Jun 13, 2012, 04:26 PM
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Glad to see you're back!
 Sorry to hear (well, read) you've been through so much lately - I hope things improve for you very soon! 
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#5
Jun 13, 2012, 04:34 PM
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Jun 13, 2012, 04:59 PM
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So great to see you back on here. So sorry to hear you are not doing well. (((((((Hugs))))))0 I missed you.
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#7
Jun 13, 2012, 07:03 PM
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I think that some of what your T said is fact, there is definitely an importance to apply radical acceptance where it's needed......but also, you need to define what is causing you to feel angry. Where is that emotion coming from? You need to process those things so you can start to let them go......& even radical acceptance is a process that we have to do over & over on some things before we can get them to the point we can deal with them in an acceptance way.
When I finally left my husband 5 years ago, I was filled with anger at everything in my life......When I think about the things that caused the anger in my life (from my husband to my mother whose choices when she was dying caused me to go through a horrible trauma), I still can understand why I felt the level of anger I did, but I have been able to process what happened & have accepted that what happened happened & there is nothing that I can do to change or fix any of it. Any time I have any dealings with my husband, my level of dislike for him rises again but since I don't have to live around him 24/7 any longer, my level of irritation comes down very quickly. I realized that I was like that full glass of water that is bulging but not overflowing (that water was my anger) & one drop more would just send me into overflow. My anger came from being lied to continually whether openly or by things left not said. His financially not taking care of the family. My anger toward him started even before we got married & he didn't do anything to fix those things that kept hurting me, causing me stress & making me feel like he really didn't care. When you are able to understand better what is causing the anger, then you can deal with it better & it does become more than just accepting the things it's more about understanding. I don't believe even with the radical acceptance that DBT calls for that it can be done without understanding.
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Jun 13, 2012, 08:21 PM
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Vanessa, I've been wondering how you've been. Thanks for checking in with us!
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Jun 14, 2012, 01:40 AM
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Jun 14, 2012, 06:21 AM
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Hmmm. I have actually been taught that the best way to decrease anger is to release it in non-violent ways that are not hurtful to me or anyone else. Punching a pillow. Screaming in a car with the windows up. Weight lifting and work on the heavy bag. Going for a run. Anything to release that energy.
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Jun 14, 2012, 08:16 AM
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See that's what I wanted....more of concrete skills to handle my anger than just a simplistic answer 'oh it is what it is' . I'm pretty sure I could've come up with that myself. Idk I have an appt today & I'm gonna try my hardest to have a quality sesh not just small talk as usual. We shall see how it goes!
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