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Jun 17, 2012, 06:09 AM
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How many of you guys wish your male T a happy fathers day? Just curious.
 I text T every holiday, but this one felt way different after because the parental transference I have with him. 
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Jun 17, 2012, 06:22 AM
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No I have never thought of doing this - Soup
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Jun 17, 2012, 07:15 AM
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Nope. I don't see him on Sundays obviously, so the occasion doesn't come up. If I were to wish him a happy Father's Day, it would be because he is a father and grandfather many times over, not because I think of him as a father (because I really, really don't). He's a great dad and granddad though. I suspect he will be well taken care of today.
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Jun 17, 2012, 07:22 AM
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I just meant it hit on my transferance after.
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Jun 17, 2012, 07:59 AM
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My T is female but on mothers day part of me wanted to but at the same time I felt like it wouldn't be right because she's not my mom and she knows how much I wish she was. I was just worried she wouldn't like it but I think if you know your therapist and are pretty sure they would be fine with wishing them a happy father's day then I would probably do it.
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Jun 17, 2012, 08:06 AM
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Jun 17, 2012, 08:24 AM
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I personally would not text him today. My T is female and when I was in the session a few days before mothers day-I told her to enjoy her mothers day but did not text her the day of just to wish her a good one. That's just me though.
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Jun 17, 2012, 08:57 AM
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I don't- I don't text/mail him on any other major holiday too but if you do, why not?
So what if he knows you're "secretly" wishing for him to be your dad? I know it might make you feel ashamed (or feel any other not particularly pleasant emotion) but I think transference issues are an important part of therapy and they need to be taken in account and be talked about as a way for you to move on. 
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