T´s responsibility after termination

...Just a quick one.

I terminated therapy a month ago. T was supposed to fill in some papers and promised to do so. Well it has not happend... ( it´s and ongoing thing of promises not being acted on but thats not the case here)

...Just wondering if I can call or text again or since I terminated, T does not feel any responsibility anymore and I should go to a gp instead ( don´t really wan´t to involve my gp in my mental problems hmm)

So is it T ´s responsibility and is it okey for me to request the paperwork again?

I'd say if this was an agreement it is OK to chase it up.

If your GP can do it, I say ask your GP. Your mental health is part of your overall health, and IS something that falls under your GP's radar. I mean, I have some skin issues that I have seen dermatologists about, but when I get a checkup I still talk to my GP about it -- it's just not her specialty to deal with in depth.

I admit I'm really biased against your T, who has been really unreliable. Paperwork is paperwork... it just needs to get done, right? So pick someone who'll get it done.

Sorry you're still dealing with the aftermath of your exT's irresponsibility

arg. she pisses me off. If you really need the paperwork in a timely fashion then ask someone else, she has proven to you that she is unreliable. I don't think it's wrong to text her about it though.

It´s just that I have only seen my gp twice in like six years. She does not know me and it´s important papers about my mental state. So I don´t know cause I hate letting everyone know my psych issues AND T is the one who has been seeing me for a year and recommented the reason for filling in the papers in the first place.

I am not angry just a bit frustrated going on laughingspells out of pure ARGHH NOT AGAIN

I would call the guy again. I would also keep the gp out of it.

yea, I don't like my gp knowing my mental stuff either. You might have to really harass her for the papers you need, but you are definitely entitled to them.

I am sorry that your T has repeatedly let you down.

Occasionally I've been in a spot where I have really needed to get something back from people who owe me paperwork and/or money. I like to write them a polite reminder, then I send a self addressed stamped envelope for return. It cuts down a step for them to do it, and seems to work pretty well. I don't know if that would work for you, but I think that I'd be reluctant to call her again and I agree with the others to keep the GP out of it.

I'd remind your T about the papers. I like the idea of a return envelope - if you don't hear from T after a phone call or text, can you send a note with an envelope?

My GP knows just the barest minimum about my mental state. She knows about my sleep issues and depression, because she's the one who prescribes my meds for both, but she does not know 1% of what T knows.

I just realized I kind of missed your actual question. Yes, this is absolutely your T's responsibility, and you shouldn't feel bad about pursuing her if you believe that will be fruitful.

But do you have a sense of the probability that she will actually do this? How many months was it that she ignored every single one of your calls and e-mails -- 3 or so? If she did it for 3 months before, how long do you think you'll be waiting now?

I'm a little concerned that you are making this more about contacting T and not quite enough about actually getting the paperwork filled out. But I don't know the situation... perhaps she really is the only person who can do it, or maybe the paperwork isn't actually that pressing or important. If she's the only one who can do it, though, I'd find some way to have a source other than just you put pressure on her. Can you have whomever the paperwork goes to contact her? Does she have a supervisor?

I can maybe see why it could come across like this ,if I did not know the situation...But it is important. It´s about getting benefits while looking for a job.
Otherwise ..oh well

I can maybe see why it could come across like this ,if I did not know the situation...But it is important. It´s about getting benefits while looking for a job.
Otherwise ..oh well

Thanks for the clarification, work benefits are extremely important. So then, do you trust her to do this for you after blowing you off for so long? Is there a reason to believe she'll do it this time?

If she did fill it out, do you think she will do it properly? Is it possible that she will "throw you under the bus" for terminating with her? Maybe she will minimize your symptoms or say you are refusing treatment for your problems, etc...?

If you think there is any chance of this, I'd bite the bullet and see if GP will do it.

Also, did she know you were terminating when she agreed to do it? (Sorry I haven't read all your threads, so I don't know the specifics about the termination). If she agreed and then you terminated, perhaps she changed her mind about doing it (and is being completely passive-aggressive and awful about it).

Sorry you are in this position, and if she were professional she would do it (in a timely manner). Unfortunately, I don't think you can force her do it.

Good luck,
EJ

Hi,

responsibility is a strong word. 'Technically' your T isn't responsible for filling out the paperwork but if they said they would then it would be the right thing to do on their part. Also as the professional who has been seeing your for a significant period of time, they would be most appropriate person to fill out the paperwork if it asks about your mental health.

I don't know the full story of the relationship between you and the T or how it ended but if it was amicable I would say that you should make an attempt to ask her/him if they are still willing to do it and if not to also let you know.

You have only ended a few weeks ago so I think your T should do this for you. Caring shouldn't end the second you leave.

If you seen your therapist privately it is possible that they could ask for a fee for form filling.

You know, I just remembered a situation a few years back when I needed a form filled out by T. I actually made an appointment with him to fill it out. I sat there with him and "helped" him fill it out the way I needed. Do you think that's an option? Then you are paying her for the time needed to fill it out, and you will be sure it gets done.

I would not ask PCP to fill out the form. I think I saw where you have only see them 2 times. They will kick it back tp Pdoc as HIPPA will not give them the info required. I would check with the state board and see if there are any ethical guidelines and time frames in regards to this. In my state, we have 15 days to send medical record when requested by another physician, but I do Family Practice I am not sure how or if there is a guideline for T. I also like the guideline to either make appointment and offer to help T with form or perhaps offer a fee to hace form filled out. Depending on complexity of fom we charge $25-$50. They can take alot of time.