I've won a few thousand on the lotto. I so want to tell T but I it's not exactly life changing but none the less gonna help a great deal. But if I tell her she may ask me to pay more for therapy. What do you guys think.

[mandehble]

If it was millions,I could see your T asking for more...or even if it was hundreds of thousands...but a few thousand? Nah! I thing you're probably good.

[Fixated]

Originally Posted by earthmamma

I've won a few thousand on the lotto. I so want to tell T but I it's not exactly life changing but none the less gonna help a great deal. But if I tell her she may ask me to pay more for therapy. What do you guys think.

I doubt your T would come out and ask you to pay more, but if he/she is giving you a reduced rate, there is a possibility some resentment counter transference could occur with T.

I would think that the pressure of not telling could impact your therapy cuz you might start censoring and always worrying about mentioning certain details. Also, this is a happy thing to share, I would imagine. Exciting!

Is there any part of you that wants to pay T more? Or thinks you should?

Ive always held a fantasy that if I won the toP lotto prize I'd want to show her my gratitude for all she has done and pay her the top rate she charges.

This is my husbands win but of course we're married so it's our win. We both talked about it and he said give her. Fiver a week more.

The money won't last forever and I'll be back to my minimum wage job income. So I don't know. I certainly am busting to share it with her.

[Mike_J]

You could share it with her (the information that is) and be honest about it, that it's a short term "shot in the arm" for your finances, but not something that will change your long term situation.

I've emailed her telling her. I can't bear dishonesty.

You should tell T about the exciting news.. I don't think she will ask you pay more. It's just a few grand. She and you know the money won't last forever. Say hypothetically You decide to catch up bills, pay off a credit card or 2.. And go out for a nice dinner and you'll be back where you started. A few grand helps, it doesn't go till the end of time. T will know that.

[kiki86]

i don't think she'll ask for more money. i'm sure she'll understand that a few thousand in winnings like that can help a lot but it's not a long term thing. i bet it doesn't even cross her mind.

Originally Posted by earthmamma

I've emailed her telling her. I can't bear dishonesty.

Good for you! If it bothers you, and I think it would prey on my mind a bit, I'd discuss it in session. That will give you a chance to see her reaction and get a feel for whether any counter-transference is going on. That's what therapy is for - to be as open and honest as possible. Hopefully you can talk about this a bit and put your mind at rest.

Now go enjoy that money!!!

[geez]

earthmamma I second what everyone else has posted here. It's a shot in the arm but not enough to sustain a higher rate for T for very long. I'm sure your T will admire your honesty and more than likely refuse additional payement.

Do something nice for yourself or spend half on yourself and half on any outstanding bills (or put in savings for an emergency).

I'm going travelling.

[Wren_]

Congratulations on the win, that's great

Have fun traveling

Did your t reply yet?

She said "that's great news".

[Wren_]

That's great news she said that

[KazzaX]

Ohhh congratulations on the lotto win!!

[WikidPissah]

Congrats earthmamma...that's wicked awesome.

Congrats Earthmamma! You cant win if you dont play!

[Perna]

Oh, what fun! Don't worry about your T, she can take care of herself/should not be "spiteful" about your win and demand more. I would be surprised if she accepted your paying her more as it is a windfall, not a permanent change in your life/style circumstances.

[AngelWolf3]

Congratulations on your win!!!! I just know you will enjoy your travels!!!

Any thoughts on where you are going?

And I am glad your T was happy for you....!

I want to go to Poland. Possibly Russia too. It was quite a few thousand pounds. I've never had anything happen like this before.

Congratulations!! Very, very nice

Originally Posted by earthmamma

I want to go to Poland. Possibly Russia too. It was quite a few thousand pounds. I've never had anything happen like this before.

Lots of interesting and nice places to visit in Poland. I've only been to St Petersburg in Russia, but it was a marvellous place. I definitely think you should spend some of the money on travelling - it's something that will stay with you afterwards!

Conrgrats on your win.