Interviewing T's

A few sessions ago something came up with t and she said "did we talk about ___ before, I think we did" and I was like like "noooo" because if we did, I totally lied about it

I think everyone is right, T's have to expect on some level that in the beginning it might be too hard to give accurate answers to certain things. Especially 90 minutes worth of questions on the first session! My golly, I think after 60 minutes, I'd have started to forget the answers to the easy ones like my name and phone number.

I lied in the beginning too. I later told T that I lied. It wasn't as awful as I thought.

Would if help to share some of our lies?
I tell the dmv I am taller than I really am.

Wow. What a bunch of liars! lol

Stopdog...I wasn't offended, I knew it was a slip but since Lola commented I thought I would sass you about it too. I was playing.

Isn't lying to the DMV a federal offense or something?

Probably, good thing I am anon here. Don't want the dmv police coming to get me.

I knew you were playing back.

The weight on my driver license is a fantasy.

I've never understood the intake questioning for therapists - they know people aren't ready to answer truthfully. Many of the questions they ask (either on paper or in person) are questions I still haven't answered for my T and I've been seeing him 8 months. I totally lied to both my previous and current Ts at that first meeting.

CSA? Nope, not me! Emotional abuse? Heck no! Food issues? Who, me? No, I just have your run-of-the-mill depression and grief about my mother. Really.

heh heh...Critter, that's hilarious.

So more processing...bear with me.
She wrote a lot, and she told me if I wanted to see what she was writing to just ask. I told her about T telling me he didn't talk to pdoc, and then pdoc telling me, "hey, I talked with T". She said that was not good, and promised that she would always ask me before talking to someone unless it was an emergency. She said that she isn't the "blank slate" kind of T. She also told me to call her by her first name even though she's a PsyD. Her office was open and bright, it felt clean. I told her more about the mastectomy then I have even told H. She knew, that was really cool. I even got a little teary about it. She didn't compare it to hers, or say it's like this. She gave me a brief quiz, repeating numbers forwards and backwards. She said "wow, you are very good with numbers". I am. I can see them in front of me when people say them, like phone numbers and stuff.

One time, when I tried to explain the mastectomy to exT he said, "that's like a guy loosing his testicles".

Personally, I feel that bonding over the mastectomy will make any other issues you have irrelevant (in terms of her not wanting to work with you bc of them) just because a bond like that is powerful. Sounds like she wants to connect with you. If you like her, let her.

right cos that's one of the first things you notice on a guy - his smile, then his balls.

Well, I tell the DMV that I am both taller than I am, as well as that I WEIGH less than I really do. You would think they would notice such a glaring lie but no one has ever said a word, lol.

When I lie to my T, it is usually to say that I am okay, that I am fine. But I am rarely okay, rarely fine.

hank, you made me burst out laughing when I read this, lol.

yea, she does that fairly often.

wow tentative..."bonding over the mastectomy". I have never bonded with a woman. Interesting thought.

Wiki, not in a good space, but I just wanted to let you know I was rootin for you....
ps i favor male t's cause the females freak me out.
go with who YOU think is best. follow your gut, you will know!

I'm sorry wiki, that setup was simply irresistible. thanks, tc.

jb...hugs. That means so much to me. I'm rooting for you too.

Hanksta...you know I love it when you make me laugh.

Mr. AOL is NASTY. I get there and there is this freak walking around the parking lot with long unruly gray hair and an overgrown beard. I figured homeless but wondered why I hadn't seen him at the shelter.

So I go in, and he follows me, and I am like...YIKES. He says "I think you might be looking for me"....ummm...no. He says his name and I am just ill, so I follow him into this dank office that smells really bad. Stains on carpet, goodwill leftovers, and tiny basement-like windows. I glance around, dogbed in the corner...wth is the dog? No where...that's odd. I look at him, stain on shirt, no socks....ick ick ick....get me out, get me out. Waves of nausea. Forms, then questions. I am feeling really grossed out, but I am planted in the cleanest chair I could find. 40 minutes. He says "so for next week I would like you to think about blah, blah, blah. Here's your appointment card." ???? Wha? Did I say I was coming back? Oh, cool, I can leave. Run, Run, Run. windows down in the car gasping for air. I can't get the smell off of me. Time with mom...I smell, I smell, I smell. Finally home and shower, clothes into washer, vodka straight up. Should I call and cancel or just not go back. So icky. So very very icky.

Just cancel-tell him you are going to keep looking. Ewes ewwwe ewww

Oh, how terrible--I'm so sorry that turned out so badly! Can you call and just leave a message so you won't have to talk to him? That way you can just cancel and not have to think about it ever again.

Frau T [whinny] sounds much more promising.

I'd send a virtual hug, but you might not want that just now... be super kind to yourself tonight.

I can't call...I don't want to hear his voice. I feel violated, but he never came near me. wtf is wrong with me.

Nothing is wrong with you! Yikes, Wikid, even I felt violated just by reading that!

I totally get it about not wanting to call. Sorry, that was a silly suggestion.

It feels like he's on me, like he's all over me. I need H. I am going to call him.

Don't even call. I don't think I would have made it through the session. I'd have said something like, "I just don't think we're going to be compatible," and split.

He actually has/keeps clients. Most people either wouldn't relate or would relate TOO much. Aychihuahua!

Take a shower, dear.

Just don't call. He seems like someone who's decided to play psychotherapist for the day.

don't call... just forget about it ... forget about the whole thing, call Frau T and set up another appointment, at least with MR. AOL there would have been NO TRANSFERENCE.... except for maybe mites ...LOL