disappointed

a simple way of giving u a kiss when u come in
a simpe way of saying thanks for coming
a simple way of talking to u
the fact she would say: "oh ill email u later to ask!!!"
a simple way of writing to me and saying kisses or smile that now doesnt hapen
this is all she changed so dont tell me is just my perception.
english is not my first language so it might be bc of that.

I really think as T's get to know their clients they change how they respond to suite what they feel their client needs. Tell your T what you need. My T won't tell me my dx either. Her response is "you can fit symptoms to anything and it's just for insurance purposes" Which to me means, you have the most severe dx we can give you so you can get as much treatment as you need. . This does not make me feel any better.

hi. ur probb right. but im gona ask her and get the diagnosis. i think if u tell her u really want it shes obliged to give it. and with the personality test ive hear sooo many "bad" names already so the diagnosis wont be so hard. tc

But you don't know why it changed until she tells you. The why is what you are assuming.

I hope things get better for you.

why does a person change attitude towards other? caz they dont like what they see. i saw she was upset once that i was in bad mood..

cognitive dissonance

learned helplessness

elaborate

we naturally find evidence in things that correlate and support our core beliefs and judgements about everything

we have learned to be a victim and are enmeshed with the role of misery and suffering

i didnt know the first one but i googled it. what that has to do with this?

THIS,,,,,,

so im supposedly imagining she was upset to support my idea? believe me is not that hard people not liking me and she wouldnt be diff.

yes

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You will have to ask her. We are all so different. She could have not felt well. She could have had an argument with her husband. Her mother could be dying.

Another thing that I have learned is that very little in life has anything to do with me. People react to their own stuff and not to me.

You write that she looked upset that you were in a bad mood. You interpret this that she was angry? She could have been sad. She could have felt that she wasn't helping you.

nope she didnt appreciate the way i was talking!

did u give up Sannah? lol yeah im tiring i know.
anyway i sent a cutee sorry glitter to my psych bc of missing the appoint.. u think she even replied? aint she a doll? i knew i shouldnt have sent a **** but anyway

You might want to consider re-reading this thread to see how dismissive you seem to be of those who have responded to you and how unwilling you seem to be to consider any of the feedback you're receiving.

Do you have an idea of what you need?

hummm as far as i saw i said thanks to some and disagreed with some things if u think is dismissive just ignore my thread

my psych sent me an email today to book next appoint. she acted like i didnt even send anything and i see my reply above without the graphic i sent (she deleted it). 3 weeks ago i didnt go bc i didnt have money (which was half bc i didnt want to go) then she booked for next week but i didnt go caz thought she didnt say what time it was. she told me she could 2 days after that but i told her i couldnt. today she asks: "do we book for next week? thrusday?" we always booked at mondays and she knows thurdays is no good for me but guess the fact i didnt go doesnt affect her at all as she acts like nothing happened. im really starting to hate her and i dont feel like going at all...

if you haven't gone for a month and she is still reaching out to you after that long, she is probably worried about you. Might as well go in.

thanks for ur reply. if she was worried she would have replied my email when i sent it and booked the appoint earlier.

I find your behavior confusing. You desire her attention but avoid her appointment offers.

You need to talk to her about communication and boundaries. Once you know what is expected, the relationship should improve.

Remember she is a therapist; not your friend.

exactly thats the issue! she treated me like a friend at beginning. i told her this was strange for me caz other psych kept always distance and i knew would end up complicating things. now she doesnt and i wish she did. i avoid the appoints caz i wanted her to react but she doesnt.

How do you want her to react?

Don't use indirect gestures. They usually get misinterpreted, anyway. It is best to be open and direct with people. They really appreciate this.

Eg. If you are deliberately late for an appointment, she will assume traffic, family or work as the cause, rather than you being upset at her.

If you can't establish boundaries get a new psych.