Welcome To The Couch People of PC Psychotherapy (All Welcome Part 11)

my friend called to make sure i am comming and told me i was supose to get an invitation in the mail that i dodn't get hummmm

i just wish we had the same friendship we use to have we were so very close in evey way and i miss her so much at times .and then at times i am so angry at her that i dont want anything to do with her because she hurt me

granite, they had a baby shower for one of my nieces a few mos back, and I didn't get an invite. My sister in law called at the last minute to ask if I was coming. I never got the invite, but she says she sent it. I really trust that she did, she's not the type to snub someone.

Things do get lost in the mail sometimes. (((hugs))) I know it hurts though.

I'll go to some exotic place with you...but not cancun. Maybe Bermuda?

oh...except I won't fly. darn. hmmmmm. Can we drive to an exotic place? I'll rent a hot red convertible and we can drive like the wind.

lola I get the crying thing. doesn't your T know how many times we heard, "you stop crying right now or i'll really make you cry". So telling you he can make you cry is kinda re-traumatizing, not to mention d I c k y, imo. something has been bothering me about this, I guess I finally figured it out.

well that makes sense. that is one big hook and eye compared to the door, it's like the twilight zone.

thanks wiki

can i just talk about her for a bit,we have known each other for so many years and have been through so much together.we were inseparable for years and years we raised our kids together as single moms when they were young.we have been through so many relationships together until we both got married.we were just so so close.we talked every day vacationed together .we were poor together and helped each other out and we.she is just someone who i thought would always be there for me.i took it for granted and i got burned big time after 23 years.i mean we were in the room with each other when our kids were born .i just don't understand what happened what i did that was so so wrong .how did i become so expendable to her also

we can go to bermuda from boston on a cruise .it is clean and beautiful.but we would be totally safe in cancun believe it or not i have gone there so much to the timeshare they know me well there and it is fun lol

That is interesting. We got both the "stop crying or I will give you something to cry about" and, with me, there was often an attempt to get me to respond emotionally to show I cared enough and then when she finally provoked me into it, it still was not right or she made fun of me for it or punished me for it being too much or just wrong. Perhaps that explains my response to LC's therapist.

Just checking in.. Back from my day of family fun. Kiddos are napping and I am going to be doing the same. Chopin, and tryingtogetby are all friends on fb, I need more! I will come play after I am rested up!

Granite...sometimes people just grow apart a bit. They end up in different places. It doesn't mean you did something wrong. Honest. I had a good swim partner for years, but last year I wasn't allowed to swim. We drifted, and when I called her to swim this summer she had a bunch of reasons. Sometimes I think it's my fault and she hates me, but then I remember what a cool person she is and I know she wouldn't have hurt me on purpose.

I think it was your response of terming him arrogant that finally tripped the Rube Goldberg contraption in my head. It echoed the maternal arrogance, which i've been kinda obsessing about this weekend.

Sorry...need to run...MIL wants to sit on the deck, and I am afraid she'll fall off.

time share in cancun and view from balcony from one of the bedrooms

I'm sorry, but this made me laugh for some reason. I have this whole video of how your weekend with MIL must be going in my mind.

I got that too..live you something to cry about.... Or why are you crying? Really? Uh cause you hit me...hello. Still awaiting his response. This is what I emailed.

Dr. Xxxxxxx

The whole, I can make you cry thing isn't sitting well with me. It makes me think , what I thought was a good rapport, is really just you manipulating me and me not being aware as I'm trying to be trusting. Did I take this wrong? You know how I feel about men anyway and this is making me feel like your no different, it came off as arrogant to me. I wanted to tell you something weird that happened yesterday, as a direct result of my trusting you and considering you as a person... Even though I would have been embarrassed, but that whole "could make you cry" thing, stopped me in my tracks.

Curious,

Lola

Btw I never call him Dr xxxx, but I was mad so I was formal.

Granite, I'll go to cancan with ya... Maybe the destination for couch summer trip 2013?

What if you just built an x-pen around where she is sitting?

ok next augest all are welcome but maybe bermuda so wiki can come

OMG I am so there....I'll be your BFF ... That looks awesome

However I will not dance topless on a bar.... Totally nude on a beach , maybe...lol

So are ya saying I need to work on getting my passport?

Yes....me too

I'll watch you and Chopin topless on a bar though... Just to be accommodating of course.

LC - when I am mad - I do not give an address. And I just sign with my last name. That will teach them.

We could spend days on her tormenting me to get an emotional response. She always won. The best I could do it stave it off for as long as I could (a more clever child would have given in faster because then it would end for awhile = she was satisfied and after gloating, could focus on other things). As I have never met a therapist as good at it as my mother - I feel certain I would win against one of their ilk.