[Miswimmy1]

My t says things that are so great to hear, wanted to hear what other ts have said...

"I won't give up, I will always do whatever I can to be there for you in every way I can"

[Victoria'smom]

"It's safe here."

[rainbow8]

Things I like hearing are different from most meaningful. I think the most meaningful is "you seem to check out of your marriage".

Things I like hearing: "You will always have a special place in my heart".
"I like you very much". "I will still like you no matter what you write in your emails". "All parts are welcome." " Nothing is ever TMI". "If holding hands is what that part needs, then that's what we'll do."

[~EnlightenMe~]

My therapist said the same thing to me, but I guess it is meaningless now. I don't have access to anything meaningful/positive that went on in therapy. I don't know why.

However, I am happy for you as it seems like your therapist genuinely cares about you and what happens to you. You deserve that!

I have the power to choose.

[junkDNA]

" i care a lot about u"
"i am protective over you"

My therapist is a psychiatrist, so the boundaries are very well defined. She does not express any kind of affection, support and so on. It is strictly therapy, and I like it that way. She has told me a few times, "You work hard." I really appreciate the recognition.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Didgee Eeyou

My therapist is a psychiatrist, so the boundaries are very well defined. She does not express any kind of affection, support and so on. It is strictly therapy, and I like it that way. She has told me a few times, "You work hard." I really appreciate the recognition.

Hi Didgee!
I read your bio. You have a very clear sense of purpose.

[BlessedRhiannon]

"I care" (which totally freaked me out at the time, but I'm starting to appreciate it)

She's said lots of other things that have had a really strong impact on me as well.

[tooski]

"You are safe with me."

And I am. He's proven that to me.

[stopdog]

I do not think the woman has said anything I would consider meaningful.

[SilverGlitter]

My t, when I said that if someone knew everything about me, they would never love me, said that no matter what I tell her, it would have no impact on the positive way she sees me or her desire to help me.

And when I asked her if she believed me, she paused and I thought, 'oh gosh, she doesn't'...and then said that she believes me with every fibre of her being.

She's said heaps of things but to me, these were to two most meaningful, that made the whole process easier.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I do not think the woman has said anything I would consider meaningful.

So your T is a professional listener, and nothing else?

[elliemay]

Easy one.

Previous therapist: That shame does not belong to you.

Current one: You are allowed to be peaceful

"I'm really proud of you."

[junkDNA]

"you're hilarious"

[lotsofq]

I won't judge you

"I like your psyche" this after months of intense dream work

I also liked it when she told me my psyche has a sense of humor. LOL

The most meaningful though was the first time she told me that I needed to see how talented and beautiful I am. I still don't believe it 100%, but I'm closer now than ever before.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

So your T is a professional listener, and nothing else?

What else would she be?

[autotelica]

Some therapists do give advice.

She has told me that she loves me, which is meaningful not only because I love that she loves me, but because it's important to know that I am loveable. "I love you" are words I've never longed to hear from anyone. But after hearing them from her, I realized you can want stuff without even knowing you do.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by stopdog

What else would she be?

I'm not selling anything. I'm just trying to understand.

Originally Posted by stopdog

What else would she be?

For me, the responses to what I say, and the questions T asks, are important. Not just that T sits there and listens.

The most meaningful thing T has said to me is that if I think they pay him enough to sit and listen to people he finds despicable, I should think again.

[Snuffleupagus]

Yesterday: "You are such a beautiful soul. I wish you could see that."
"I feel so lucky to have you in my life."

In the past: "I love you too."

Most helpful question: "What would you lose by letting that go?"

[Yoda]

In the psych hospital after I shot and killed my BF in self defense my pdoc said (as an analogy), "you two were riding in a car that was going to crash, it was just a matter of who would be driving."

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I'm not selling anything. I'm just trying to understand.

So was I. I do not know what therapists are supposed to be except professional listeners. She has never said anything advicelike I had not already thought of and I don't find her saying things that basically mean I am not worse than anyone else to be meaningful. I know I am generally okay in the bigger picture. So it is not that she does not say things, it is that I have never experienced what she says as particularly meaningful. She has said some of the things others have posted on this thread. I am just baffled at those things being meaningful.