[wotchermuggle]

Ever felt too depressed to go to a session? Did your T accept your reasoning?

[unaluna]

yes, and no they've told me to get my butt in there.

[Miswimmy1]

I hav never not wanted to go. I always want to go to t. Because she makes me feel better. I usually come out reaasured and that is a great feeling. But I don't really deal with depression, I am more anxiety, so I don't know if that makes a diference.

[stopdog]

I never want to go. I don't think I have often given reasons for canceling an appointment and am not quite certain what is meant about the therapist accepting the reason. Why would the therapist have to accept your reasons? I do usually go when very depressed on the off chance there is some way for therapy to help with it.

[ECHOES]

I have but I've only acted on that once. Usually I can know I'll feel better if I go, even if it is hard to really believe. But I've gone so many times feeling so depressed, and she is wonderful at that time and I leave feeling much better. Sometimes I feel like a brand new person.

What helps is to go and just open right up with that - I was going to cancel because I'm feeling so depressed. I asked once if she wanted me to come when I'm like that, and she does - she wants to know all of me

Im not real sure about the whole T accepting the reasoning part cause honestly at the end if the day I don't think my T gives a hoot if I show up or not. I don't come-she gets an hour to herself.

[dismantle.repair]

This is how it usually goes... (if she's around)

T's sec: Can you make your appointment?
Me: No... *sounds dreary*
her: Why?
Me: ... Sick
Her: ... Hang on, dr.T wants to talk to you.
...
T: dr, why aren't you coming?
Me: .... Told the sec I'm sick. Uhhh.. cough.
T: Are you chickening out?
Me: NO!
T: You aren't sick!
Me: I'm tired....
T: You're gonna get here somehow. We need to talk... You promised your friends.
Me: Damn your guilt trip.
T: I know! Aren't I awful?
Me: Yes!
T: So tomorrow then.
Me: I think I need therapy for your therapy. See you tomorrow.

[WikidPissah]

Yes, sometimes when I am really down therapy questioning makes me worse, so I take self care. (I haven't cancelled often though) Every t has accepted me canceling, and I would be really pissed off if they didn't. My therapy, my choice.

[Towanda]

I would never cancel if I was depressed. I know that's the time when I really need to get my butt in his office and open up about what's bothering me. And I always leave feeling at least a little better then when I came in.

[trdleblue]

The last two weeks I have wanted to cancel for being too depressed, but I have forced myself to go. I think I would have felt worse if I did not go. If I were to decide to cancel my T would have no choice in the matter.

[pbutton]

T1 once told me that he knew therapy was hard. He said it was ok to call and say "I can't do this today."

[Victoria'smom]

Me: can't come today?
T: so you'll come this Wednesday?
Me: uh.. not Wednesday!
T: So now or appointment time?
Me: but I don't want to -
T: I know you don't but you will be...
Me:uh.. yeah

I am majorly depressed and she knows it. I showed up for my last appointment with no make-up, did not fix my hair, slouchy clothes........she has never seen me that way. I am shocked that I went looking like that, but I knew that I needed to see her. I laid down on the couch, put my blanket over me, and cried. She knew I was in bad shape, so there was no reason to try to cover it up with makeup, clothes, and decent hair!

I have no idea how I will show up next week. No matter how depressed I may be, I will show up. I would feel far worse if I didn't.

[CantExplain]

Too depressed, no.
Too upset, yes.

[Yoda]

I have been too tired. I had to pay for the session anyway though so now I push myself harder to get there.

[Emptty]

My T says if I don't want to go I don't have to but when I've canceled over depression he has always said "well I'm not putting anyone in for your session I'd really like it if you decided to come. I hope you feel better"

I usually end up going but depression can be so exhausting. Sometimes I just can't do it.

[delicatefade26]

I'm suppose to see T on Monday-I just emailed him and told him I don't feel well enough to come in for a session-that I've been in bed for 2 days and don't see me feeling good anytime soon-that I just don't care anymore-and that I don't have the energy. I told him I just wanted to sleep instead...

[rainbow_rose]

i've only cancelled if i'm sick... even then i didn't feel that was a good enough reason.

[mixedup_emotions]

Ugh, the exhaustion of depression....I remember it quite clearly. I, too, did not want to go to my session - but my T was firm with me, to help push me to attend. Sometimes, I sat there and said absolutely nothing...but just knowing that I made it out of the house was an accomplishment. It's so difficult. (( HUGS ))

[rainboots87]

A couple times in deep depression, I've tried to cancel sessions but it came from a place of "I don't deserve it." When I'm in that deep, I don't feel I deserve any comfort/food/help/etc. My T or my dietitian usually really encouraged me to show up and so I think I always did.

[wotchermuggle]

I know that when I've cancelled a session, I always feel worse because I think about how I could have been at session.

[lostmyway21]

No. I know sessions will make me feel better. I always make myself go. I never break the consistency. That would create a bad habit.

[Butterflies Are Free]

Great question! I just came out of a two week depressive episode but made myself go to all of my therapy sessions so I could receive support in handling the depression. Depression feels very isolating to me and even though I told my T last Monday, "I really don't like you to see me like this", I felt comforted and was glad I went. Her support during those times is critical for me.

[~EnlightenMe~]

I've been too depressed to try to find a therapist, and didn't for a bit, but I have finally forced myself to do so. Unfortunately, thus far I am frustrated from my efforts, which took a ton of effort. I have one more meeting with a new therapist, and after that I think I'm done. I'm too tired and depressed to fight things. When I'm depressed, I lack the mental fortitude to push through frustrations.

No, when I'm depressed, I know I have to go in no matter how exhausted and unmotivated I feel. My depressions get way out of hand way too easily. I don't generally have the choice about pushing my way through it anyway. Missing work because of the depression isn't really an option as it really just makes my work load even worse; it's easier to just go. I have 3 boys at home that I can't put on hold because of my depression; again, I just push through. I think therapy is just one more thing I make myself push through. I'm sure the pushing through work thing is a strong contributing factor to increasing depression, but I don't have any options really unfortunately; it's the nature of the job. But pushing myself through therapy does help, so maybe there is some sort of balance there.