[CantExplain]

Something to tell my T:

You wanted me to get angry and to say what I felt without judging it. So here it comes.

I feel you have lied to me.

I don’t believe it for a moment. I have always had the highest opinion of your integrity. I have no idea what the lie was. But there it is.

My heart says you lied.

[mixedup_emotions]

That doesn't seem like a feeling to me. A feeling is an emotion. This seems more like a belief or conclusion that you've drawn....and based on that belief, you feel? Betrayed? Let down? Untrusting?

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions

That doesn't seem like a feeling to me. A feeling is an emotion. This seems more like a belief or conclusion that you've drawn....and based on that belief, you feel? Betrayed? Let down? Untrusting?

It's certainly not a conclusion. I have no conscious knowledge of what it means.

[CantExplain]

It doesn't make any sense, but if T is determined to hear stuff that doesn't make sense, so be it.

Listen to your heart - it has a voice too, a powerful one. You're being true to yourself by feeling this and bringing it up. And I agree with your T - don't judge it, don't filter it, don't insist that it make sense. Feel it, and then figure it out. It takes ALL of our senses to make a whole person. Your heart is speaking, so listen to it. Somewhere, somehow, it makes sense. A whole person is complex, a lot of integrated parts. I think we need to let each part speak and then integrate it into the whole. Who is lying here? How? About what? That's the journey that you're on.

I say this, but I know how hard it is to actually do it. It's a struggle for me, and I'm faltering. You should have an interesting next session...hope it goes well!

[LotusBloom]

I understand that feeling...for me I think that it goes back to childhood and always wanting to believe what my caregivers were telling me was true, and then being disillusioned by the fact that many times it was a lie. I just began to believe that everyone close to me was lying to me...whether true or not, but it felt that way. So maybe this is rooted somewhere in past experiences and feeling it with your T is a safe place for you to be angry about it and begin to build trust in her and others around it...hope that made since?

[BonnieJean]

Can't Explain

[CantExplain]

I've bent over backwards so far with trying to understand what happened in my last session, that I've fallen down and I can't get up.

I don't know what I believe any more.

However, I'm really quite happy. I have a great T and we'll sort it out eventually.

[ECHOES]

I'm glad you are confident that you and T will sort it out.
The session(s) following something like this can be the best.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

I'm glad you are confident that you and T will sort it out.
The session(s) following something like this can be the best.

Well, let's hope so!

This would be a good opportunity for her to model some conflict resolution strategies.

[ECHOES]

Well, let's hope so!

lol.

I just like your open and honest approach. That it isn't "the end of the world".