[mixedup_emotions]

As you know, I'm struggling with the reality of my financial situation. I hesitate to share what I'm going through with family and friends because they just don't understand the importance of therapy in my life.

So far, I've shared my feelings with two people - and both of them said the same thing - you should give up therapy, it's not a necessity, you are too dependent on it, you need to live your life outside of therapy....on and on and on.

I guess I just need to accept that people who are not in therapy just don't understand...but that leaves me very alone and unsupported in dealing with my struggle.

*sigh*

[wotchermuggle]

Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions

As you know, I'm struggling with the reality of my financial situation. I hesitate to share what I'm going through with family and friends because they just don't understand the importance of therapy in my life.

So far, I've shared my feelings with two people - and both of them said the same thing - you should give up therapy, it's not a necessity, you are too dependent on it, you need to live your life outside of therapy....on and on and on.

I guess I just need to accept that people who are not in therapy just don't understand...but that leaves me very alone and unsupported in dealing with my struggle.

*sigh*

You're right. It's like a lot of things....if you haven't been there, you can't really understand.

[rainbow8]

I agree. People don't understand about therapy if they aren't in it.

One of the reasons why nobody knows I'm in therapy.

[Sannah]

We understand, though.

[Nightlight]

Before I started therapy for myself I wouldn't have understood (though I would have tried). I tried to cut back to once a fortnight recently due to financial concerns, and I ended up in a very bad place. I wasn't ready to lose the support. Losing something so important to me because of something like money, was impossible for that really sad, wounded, vulnerable part of me to understand. For people who haven't lacked that consistency or stability, and then gained it through a therapy relationship, it's so difficult to understand. Before therapy I really had no concept of it. Now I understand.

I'm sorry you don't have anyone in RL who understands, but you do have the people here on PC who do understand and are here for you.

[Miswimmy1]

I think it is hard for others to relate to therapy. they don't see how much it helps... they think its where insane ppl go. Im sorry that no one understands you... i think that if it is helping you, then it is definatley worth it i hope everything works out and you can continue therapy...

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions

As you know, I'm struggling with the reality of my financial situation. I hesitate to share what I'm going through with family and friends because they just don't understand the importance of therapy in my life.

So far, I've shared my feelings with two people - and both of them said the same thing - you should give up therapy, it's not a necessity, you are too dependent on it, you need to live your life outside of therapy....on and on and on.

I guess I just need to accept that people who are not in therapy just don't understand...but that leaves me very alone and unsupported in dealing with my struggle.

*sigh*

There seems to be a prevalent attitude that people who don't have enough money shouldn't be allowed to set their own priorities.

I say: you're an adult, spend your money (such as it is) any way you please.

[trdleblue]

I'm sorry that people in your life don't understand. I'm having financial issues right now, and I will tell you that my first two priorities are rent, and then t. I'm sure you have looked at your finances every which way you can, but your health is important, and t can be a part of that.

I'm sorry too that you're going through this struggle wtih people in your life not understanding. But your health IS important, and mental health just as or more so than physical health since sometimes our mental health can lead to physical issues. I probably said that badly, sorry if I did. But I do understand the reality of financial problems, as I just got through a year and a half long process of bankruptcy that included losing our home, it was emotionally draining and very stressful etc etc etc I won't bore anyone further with that, but thankfully my husband understands enough that he didn't try to stop me from going to therapy weekly. I would have seriously lost it if I had not been able to see my t every week and I'm not even kidding a little bit on that. She kept me grounded during the worst of it.

All that was to say I agree wtih CE "you're an adult, spend your money (such as it is) any way you please." and with everybody else that you're so right that people who haven't been in therapy really can't understand why we feel it is so important.

I wish all the best for you.

[alone in the world]

Understand the financial peice cancelled my session for 2 weeks because of it. Now I am working with an agency that feels therapy is to important for me to give up and my pay the fee for a year. Hope you can find away to continue going loss of a T is really hard to deal with before you are ready.

I hear you.. People totally dont get it

[mixedup_emotions]

Thanks, everyone. I am so glad PC is a place where people truly understand what I'm going through.

With 50% of my current income going towards a mortgage and 38% going to medical expenses (including therapy)....and unemployment ending in a couple months which would leave me without even being able to pay the mortgage without dipping into savings...I'm in quite a predicament.

I could stay in denial, making it work for a few months, holding onto the hope that this job becomes full time or I find something comparable, but my savings would be depleted awfully fast.

It's upsetting to have people in my life judge me and look down on me for choosing to continue therapy when I'm facing financial distress.

I'm so glad to have PC. (( HUGS ))