[sittingatwatersedge]

and wayyyy too hard.

... I told T that I have a birthday coming up.
she made sure of the day and then said, do you ... want me to do something?

first I thought, did you really think i told you just so you would do something about it?! then I realized it was kindness (duh SAWE), I just have trouble recognizing it when it comes she brings other clients ice cream and stuff on their birthdays. I personally couldn't make it go down, I wasn't fishing for gifts.

then I thought, no his is too easy. She Who Holds The Balance of Power wants to know what I want? I want an extra half hour, T, in which you tell me true, good news of how I am REALLY doing.
heck if she asked me to pay for that, I would.

Did I tell her? Oh certainly not. Oh no, i don't want anything. thanks awfully.

[granite1]

what an amazing idea sitting .i hope something is done for you anyway your b-day is important

[Big Mama]

You are special, that day is special. The Day God gave you your first breath of air, it is special. I hope your birthday is extra special.

AWh, your t sounds lovely, how sweet is she
She might just surprise you with a big bowl of icecream

[pbutton]

Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge

Did I tell her? Oh certainly not. Oh no, i don't want anything. thanks awfully.

Oh. I SO get this. BIG BIG Hugs to you.

[Miswimmy1]

well I have a feeling that t is going to give u something anyway she sounds great and who knows what is up hey sleeve? I hope you hav an amazing bday!

[rainbow8]

I think it's nice that your T asked you if you wanted her to do something for your birthday. I remember when I was upset when my session was on my birthday and my T said she doesn't do anything for any client's b-day. That's when we made my card together, in the session.

I would have felt strange answering if I were asked that question, though. So I understand that you didn't answer. Will you now be disappointed if she DOES NOT give you anything? I think she will, though.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Will you now be disappointed if she DOES NOT give you anything?

not really. I didn't tell her because I wanted her to do something, only to know (few people do know)

but hey! maybe she will let me off of doing a collage - that's apparently the plan for next week and i am petrified. Zero art classes in my LIFE - and if I screwed it up at home so what, but live? in front of her?! yikes. I'm dreading it like knives.

[rainbow8]

Don't be scared of doing a collage! It's not about art, it's about feelings. Or is that what you're scared of? You're not going to be graded and there are no right or wrong answers. It's just another way to access your feelings.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Don't be scared of doing a collage! It's not about art, it's about feelings. Or is that what you're scared of? You're not going to be graded and there are no right or wrong answers. It's just another way to access your feelings.

I. don't. know. how. if I don't screw it up, then too revealing. either way, bad news.

[Big Mama]

Collages are fun. A little of this a little of that. Some color here, some glue there. It's the process not the product. The finished product is not what is important it's the thought process that goes into thinking it threw.

[KazzaX]

Maybe you are just wanting the T to acknowledge your birthday when it comes up? It's not the done thing for therapists to give gifts and everyone knows that, so maybe you just want her to acknowledge it close to the day andsay "happy birthday".