[WikidPissah]

How frequently do you come away from T frustrated and/or irritated?

I honestly don't know what is normal. I don't know if we are supposed to leave frustrated, or if it should be only some of the time or what. So I am trying to figure out what the average normal is. If that makes sense. If not, ignore me.

[WikidPissah]

(I totally felt like the Count on Sesame Street writing this poll)

[murray]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

(I totally felt like the Count on Sesame Street writing this poll)

this made me laugh

I try not to leave with any unresolved or unspoken issues surrounding my T relationship.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

I try not to leave with any unresolved or unspoken issues surrounding my T relationship.

I have tried not to - but it takes two to tango on this one and if the t is unwilling to engage - then unresolved it remains. I speak about it a lot.

I leave frustrated I'd guesstimate about 25% of the time, maybe just slightly more. I don't think leaving frustrated is particularly unusual. Sometimes I'm frustrated at me; sometimes I'm frustrated at him; sometimes I'm just frustrated with life in general. That's just how it goes sometimes.

I put 6 out of 8, but honestly most of them are frustrating. And it's me. It's not him. I just get so dang frustrated with myself and my thinking and what seems like lack of progress.

[Gadgetsmile]

All my last 8 sessions with ex t were frustrating, but more frustration at the system in uk, and myself for not being able to verbalise what was in my head.

[WikidPissah]

It's kind of looking like there is no normal! lol. It figures.

I am looking for precise calculations to predestine my therapy and I get polka dots.

[taylor43]

I have to say 75% of the time im fustrated at myself. My t's are so wounderful helping me, sometimes i have a hard time explaining things 100% so yes i do get fustrated allot!

[critterlady]

I said 2 out of the last 8, but that's unusually high for me. We just happened to hit on something that I don't agree with T about and we've been talking around and around about it. Luckily, we seem to have worked that out now. Which means that, of course, we'll be back on the topic again. And again. Lather, rinse, repeat.

[Miswimmy1]

well i usually come out ok. and then once i am out, and have had time to think about what went on, then i get annoyed and frustrated. because i feel like t makes me feel better in the moment, and then i walk out and go wth just happened?

[autotelica]

In the beginning, when laying out of my problems was so important, I was frustrated a lot. But I think I was frustrated more about myself than I was with her.

Now I don't feel frustrated quite so much. I'd say it's like 10-20% of the time. I think now I'm more assertive and not afraid to correct her when she's wrong. She also knows me a lot better, so she doesn't have to do a lot of wild guessing to figure out what I'm trying to say or how I'm feeling.

Lately the only reason I get frustrated is cuz they go by too doggone fast!!!!

[trdleblue]

I said I was frustrated 6 out of 8, but it could be more then that. It's all me that I'm frustrated with in t.

[WikidPissah]

I am amazed at the people who have said, "It's all me". Surely the therapist has some role in helping you not to be frustrated?

BTW... Freefall was kind enough to send me the following link about therapy success.
(thanks freefall!!)

https://www.psychotherapy.net/articl...-effectiveness

Isn't therapy the place to exPereince these kind of emotions. If they didn't happen they'd just be waiting to happen somewhere, someplace.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

I am amazed at the people who have said, "It's all me". Surely the therapist has some role in helping you not to be frustrated?

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For what it is worth, I definitely believe it is them too.

I think a therapist can remain authentic whilst you exPereince your frustration. I think if she stepped in and fixed your frustration what have you gained? I think a T should help you bear your frustration. But it's not their place to take it away. It's yours, it's how you have reacted to a situation.

[WikidPissah]

Well, someone has to really work hard in order to frustrate me, I don't frustrate easily. There has to be a better answer then coming out of most sessions

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

Well, someone has to really work hard in order to frustrate me, I don't frustrate easily. There has to be a better answer then coming out of most sessions

Sounds like maybe you do frustrate easy?? Maybe. You seem frustrated here already.

[WikidPissah]

no, I'm not frustrated. I just used the smiley instead of writing the word. I think my frustration in t mostly comes from walking out of a session with nothing clearly understood.

I saw a t for 5 weeks. She helped me more in those 5 weeks than any other t has helped me in long term therapy. There was insight, understanding and clear goals. The sessions connected to each other, everything was congruent.

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

no, I'm not frustrated. I just used the smiley instead of writing the word. I think my frustration in t mostly comes from walking out of a session with nothing clearly understood.

I saw a t for 5 weeks. She helped me more in those 5 weeks than any other t has helped me in long term therapy. There was insight, understanding and clear goals. The sessions connected to each other, everything was congruent.

I can relate to that as I have only seen my current t for six sessions and she has helped me more than any other T. She said it's called short term cbt but it was very insisghtful and helpful. Good luck with your new t wikki

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by stopdog

For what it is worth, I definitely believe it is them too.

I meant I think it is the therapist too. A lot. Therapists were the them to whom I was referring.

[rainbow_rose]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

(I totally felt like the Count on Sesame Street writing this poll)

did you do the laugh?