T attachment

This is mainly me thinking out loud, but feel free to comment and provide insights.

T often says that therapy is a place for me to practice relationships. One of the things we work on is being more open and trusting of others.

So this morning I realized I want to go to my next session. Right now I am not afraid or anxious about going. I really want to go and share with t what happened the last week and a half. I want to talk to t because I know I can trust her and that she cares for me and has my best interest at heart. I even want to share the difficult stuff.

These feelings are new to me. I'd always had it lurking in the back of my mind that full attachment to t wasn't worth it. This was just a temporary "fake" relationship. I felt there was no point in becoming really attached to t because eventually my sessions would end. But this morning I realized this is what I am supposed to be learning - how to be attached without being needy. I am supposed to learn healthy attachment in adult relationships. And the best way to do that is to practice with t. It is okay if the relationship isn't forever. This is what I am meant to learn right now.

good, positive, sane, healthy thoughts Sconnie. I am glad you are in a solid T relationship.

That's awesome....I do believe there are times when I feel that way, but it's not very consistent. Maybe someday....

I'm glad you're in that place at the moment. Hopefully, that will allow your work in T to blossom even further.

Hey,

Thanks for your post, I never looked at it like that. I find myself getting emotionally attached to just about everybody I meet. It always hurts when we have to go our separate ways. How can I not get so emotionally attached to people I meet?

Yes and that even though the physical therapeutic relationship will end at some point, the emotions and memories go on living within you both. You can never undo having shared time & space with her.

i read somewhere that the therapeutic relationship is like training wheels and i shared that with my T and she said , "yep, right now im holding you up and someday YOU are going to kick me off cause you wont need me anymore"

For me the attachment thing neither makes sense nor, if it has happened, is useful. I am glad for those for whom it works.

It took me a while to trust that T wasn't going to give up on me and tell me to find another T. I had one T before him that moved out of town right as I was going through a terrible event.
Not to mention I just do not trust anyone other than my mother.

But now I feel like T is a father figure, whIch I never had before, and I'm anxious to see him each week. Although I still get nervous once I'm In the room and he's across from me.